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Respect. The best thing a husband can do is respect his wife's decisions, i mean the girl leaves her family and every thing just for him the husband has to give the utmost respect to his wife. She is a Family starter and in my opinion should be "Worshiped" by her husband.
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We are talking about respect and aap hug and kiss ko beech mien kahaan se ley aaye 
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i was jst commenting on aahmed’s comment ..
Kiss n hugs alot depends upon love ... if u really wana enjoy kiss thn u need to love tht person ..:)
also gotta have respect for the person your kissing...
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Love.
also gotta have respect for the person your kissing...
lol...well said.
I don't think of marriage as love and respect, more like hugs and kisses :D (for Lila)
for that they will need XOXOXOXOXOXOXO, and lots of them.
so they should play Xs and Os more often.
What i more important in a husband & wife relationship...love or respect? Yes I know both...but which is the more important? Why?
I think Respect is more important but u cant love someone with out having alot of respect for the individual.
so YEA RESPECT it is coz without respect love doesn't mean much.
when you say respect what exactly you mean by it?
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Definately Love
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If there wasn’t any love in the world, but there was respect, it’d be quite a civil place. The other way round though.. not so sure 
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Respect.
Sometimes love is not enough to keep a relationship going or some people may not be in a position to fall in love straight away. Respect is something which may be longer lasting than love for some married couple. Due to respect they have for their partner, they may refrain from doing certain things.
The two words can be interchangeable in some situations. Love does not necessarily mean that one will be treated right but respect does imply that.
Can you respect someone you hate? Besides, people are contradicting themselves here. On one hand they say that love is an infatuation that will wear off, yet also think respect will lead to love (an infatuation that will wear off)?
Without love, marriage is just a secular partnership, a social arrangement. What you call respect are all the secular qualities that you need to make any partnership work (like sense of responsibility, respect for partners rights, obligation to the contract, etc). Love makes these partners trust each other, miss each other, accept each others imperfections, and long for each. Its the spark that breathes life into an otherwise dull robotic social arrangement.
I also disagree with people who think that if you live together enough with each other and are be respectful then they eventualy fall in love. Sure it may happen sometimes but not always, because one doesn't "settle" for love. Arranged marriages are like blind dates except its the last date you will ever have so you might as well make the best of it and settle for your love.
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^hmm lack of love is not necessarily hate.with like and enough respect u can make love grow i think. though its not exactly a formula. tough question though but love without respect is just a heart ache so yeah i'd rather pick respect.
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A marriage would be so boring with only respect. I wouldn't be able to wrestle him.
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Well I guess you could. You would just have to be polite and say something like ‘One would like to wrestle with you; does one have permission?’
@ american pie: i think the poster meant that love without respect is just infatuation that wears off. lets say a highly educated, breadwinning girl falls head over heels for a good looking, charismatic guy, although he is not as educated or makes as much money but still decides to marry him. After a year or so, she might get sick of the charisma and his looks don't matter any more, and she realized that she married someone she does not respect, and she doesn't love him anymore. Or the other way around- a guy marries a girl that is extremely beautiful but after the novelty wears off, he realizes that he should have married one that was more educated/religious/etc, i.e. someone with something more than just beauty/charisma/personality.
However, most people fall for those that they respect. I think a marriage can last with respect. in the beginning, love is enough to carry the marriage, but for the marriage to endure, there must be respect. Even if there is no love in the beginning, lets say the couple has no chemistry, if they respect each other, look up to each other, they will definitely love each other. my opinion.
You guys are confusing love with whole sorrta things. Love is not a momentary infatuation or a psychotic obsession. Besides if you love someone you definately respect them but it is not necessarily the other way around.
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Respect comes first … only then, love can happen <==== in my books 
