Hypothetical Question. How would you react, when someone you trust with personal information is sharing it with people without telling you, and come to learn of this from a third party?
I'd be hurt for one..
Re: Respect of Privacy
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*Originally posted by Fret Wizard: *
Hypothetical Question. How would you react, when someone you trust with personal information is sharing it with people without telling you, and come to learn of this from a third party?
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Fret dude, you do it Arab style GET RIDE of that person......SERIOUSLY!
^^ exactly...
I would never talk to that person again...this itself will be a great punishment for him/her....
I would feel hurt and betrayed and confront the person. I'll allow them the chance to explain themselves and then give them the boot...depending on their answer.
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*Originally posted by MehnazQ: *
I would feel hurt and betrayed and confront the person. I'll allow them the chance to explain themselves and then give them the boot...depending on their answer.
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How many chances would you give, if any at all?
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*Originally posted by Fret Wizard: *
How many chances would you give, if any at all?
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Personally, I think it depends on who the person is and what they mean to me. I am usually very forgiving, especially if I love or care for the person. So it really depends on how much I value the person and if I really want them in my life.
I've made friends in the past who have gone behind my back shortly after meeting them and gossiped about me. I found out and didn't confront them. I simply cut them out of my life cause I didn't think they were worth the effort.
However, I've also had other people in my life who have betrayed me in some way...but then I've usually forgiven them. If you make it clear how much it bothers or hurts you that the other person betrayed you in such a way, then hopefully, I would trust that they wouldn't make the same mistake again.
So depending on who the person is and whether I want to keep them in my life, then I will give them a second chance.
Interesting. Thanks for your responses folks :)
Fret you do not give that person any more chances, this is why, because then they might get used to it, and thinking you might just let them go this time.
If a person tells me something, it dies with me!
…I would be soo great as a spy or in the mob 
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*Originally posted by Majestic: *
Fret you do not give that person any more chances, this is why, because then they might get used to it, and thinking you might just let them go this time.
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Good point maj.
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If a person tells me something, it dies with me!
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It's a shame everyone isn't like this. But that's reality I suppose.
fretty who betrayed u? :(
i'd still talk to them.. just be a lil distant and more careful of what i talk to them about in future.
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*Originally posted by suroor_ca02: *
fretty who betrayed u? :(
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Someone I thought I could trust, suroor.
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i'd still talk to them.. just be a lil distant and more careful of what i talk to them about in future.
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Thanks for your input, suroor. I think I'm going to have to keep my distance with this person, to prevent or avoid any such things from happening again.
u want us to :kaboom: them
i'd be pissed off and angry.
suroor let me do it, let me, I’m bored
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*Originally posted by Majestic: *
suroor let me do it, let me, I'm bored
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hehe.. aww.. but i said it first.. u can help me if u want?
I have been on both sides of this issue in the past. I have been trusted in confidence, and have broken others trust, most of the time without their knowledge. To me, I didnt do it to intentionally hurt them, but rather to gain advice from others on the matter or so others would know what the person was going through so as not to bother them, etc. I justified it to myself, which wasnt right. I believe now that the only real time one should share a secret is if its life threatening or if the thing they know may harm another, and to tell the secret would prevent harm whether it be emotional, physical, etc. But only to parties that would be directly affected.
I have also had my secrets let out by friends, and the way I handled it was that I continued talking to the person, just didnt share deep secrets with them. Sometimes I still did, but I figure if the person tells, it wont harm me in anyway.
If you are going to continue sharing your deep secrets with someone you know whom you cant trust, who is really at fault here? Ask yourself, and you'll find the answer. smile
Its a violation of trust. I would approach the trustee, handle according to how I see fit.
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wise saying, not mine, "if u cant keep ur own secrets, dont expect others to keep em for u"....