so now he deserves to go to jail? Did he put a gun on her head for her family said yes to the marriage? NO responsibility of choosing a wrong guy is upon her or her family, right?
He doesn't deserve to go to jail but he does deserve to see what his actions did to someone else.
I don't believe the responsibility all of a sudden is on her and her family now. kitnay sawal poochangay log? Kitni khoj karengay? On the other hand, he was not a child. He knew what he was doing. He knew more than the family did.
I would complain in the civilized way you can to USCIS...take the actions you can take and be honest and truthful about things. Paheli outlined the process to the T for you.
I don't think Homeland Security can do anything even if you report him. Its not like you can point and they will grab him off the road...they will do their own investigation before taking someone from their home who - legally - has every right to be here. If he's clean, he gets to stay and you just look like a disgruntled ex-wife who tried to play dirty.
The other option is............let it go and move on with your life.
if the person is a bad spouse, why not just leave them? let them sort out their own immigration issue. I wouldn't report them to any federal authority though because that's too cruel.
or you know, if he's a total jerk, then why not. they deserve it.
Umm, So the GIRL was responsible for bringing him to U.S ! It is in the LAW for the sponsoring person to report if the person is not living with them anymore and the conditions have been broken. She spent all the $$$$ on him to bring him her, the lawyer fees and all that the department DEMANDS you tell them, because if the person is caught in an illegal action , SHE will be responsible.
No there are several things he did and said and eventually it's proved that his intentions were not right. Unfortunately my parents trusted their him blindly as apna bacha hai... so dhokay ka kya sawal but eventually it's been proved that you can,t trust anyone blindly no matter how close they are:(:(
Hmm in my state cuz marriage is illegal but than isn,t it going to affect me?
your religious right to marrying a cousin may be more of a priority, and thus you wouldn't be doing something illegal...at least I think that's how ti is.
How long has he been here? Whats his status at the moment? If theres is a slight chance he can be deported go for it. Its worth it!
Before you do, you need to find solid evidence as past conversations are not convincing enough.. Perhaps you can email him and get him into admitting his intentions by asking certain q, or make a video/audio recording of your convos. Anything that would strengthen your case is good.
Here’s a crazy idea…how about you don’t volunteer the fact that you did something illegal? Learn to play with words. If you’re ever asked how you met him…just say you met through family (ie. your parents have known his parents for decades). Technically…that’s not a lie. The word “cousin” doesn’t have to be mentioned at all. Going through this thread…it’s obvious that people here have no idea how USCIS works when it comes to marriage fraud.
PPride: If you haven’t already…you need to go back and carefully read what I wrote on page 1. That is the process you need to go through. I already mentioned what the tone of your letter should be. Allow me to add the following: stick to facts! USCIS doesn’t care about your feelings. The only thing they want to know is why you believe that he married you ONLY for papers and never had any intention to live his life as your husband. That’s it. Do NOT add any details that has nothing to do with him being dishonest about his intentions. Another words…things like him being your cousin doesn’t need to be mentioned there. I assume that right now, you’re a U.S. citizen. So the odds of anything bad happening to you are very close to 0. And I’m not sure what’s this “hassle” you keep referring to since all you need to do is write a da*n letter, get it notarized, and mail it in.
But you need to understand some things very clearly. USCIS is not going to go arrest him as soon as you send in your letter. They will not automatically revoke his permanent residency either. Here’s the ONLY thing that can happen: if and when he applies for citizenship OR the renewal of his permanent residency, USCIS will go through his entire file. That’s when they will come across your letter. Now depending on how convincing your letter is…USCIS can make it very difficult for him to get approved for citizenship. Worst case scenario is that USCIS will reject his application citing marriage fraud. At that time, he can go back to Pakistan or continue living in the U.S. illegally until USCIS deports him. But he’s not going to to go to jail UNLESS he commits an actual crime. USCIS is already overwhelmed and they’re not overly concerned with illegals who are not committing crimes related to drugs, violence etc. Most illegals get deported b/c they were caught committing some other crime (ex. DUI, domestic violence, drug posession, assault etc.) Of course, IF USCIS rejects his application b/c of “marriage fraud”, then that becomes part of his record. If he gets deported or leaves the U.S. voluntarily…then he can NEVER return. Having “marriage fraud” in your file carries a lifetime ban from the U.S.
Also on a side note: I read one of your past posts. You should not have gone for a no-fault divorce. If you wanted to increase the chances that he doesn’t get approved for citizenship…you should’ve filed for an annulment OR divorce citing fraud.
if the marriage was in pakistan i don't think it's illegal to be married to your cousin if you then reside in a US state that doesn't allow cousin marriages
so i don't think the OP did anything illegal if they were married in pak
if the marriage was in pakistan i don't think it's illegal to be married to your cousin if you then reside in a US state that doesn't allow cousin marriages
so i don't think the OP did anything illegal if they were married in pak
Yeah, American embassy recognizes civil laws of Pakistan. If cousin marriage is legal in Pakistan, and couple got married there then it should not be problem in US, but as paheli said she should not use word "cousin" in her letter.
If you are absolutely sure that he was only using you for a green card, then report him. I hope you're sure though. If you are, then follow Paheli's advice, especially the part about not being emotional. Just lay out the facts and he might get his down the road.
Sory to hear this dear. One of my mom's friend's cousin got married to her cousin. Actually they went back and perform all the rasams in Pakistan but for nikaah came here in USA. nikaah was after a week. The guy didn't tell poor thing until the night before the Nikaah that he didn't want to marry her. He did all the rasams so he can come to USA. They were not first cousins though. Girl's mom booked the ticket and took the guy with her back to Pakistan and cancelled/wihdrew his fiance visa. And he won't be able to come back as they said to immigration that it was a fraud or somthing(That's what my mom was being told by them).
And Mr. Obama, Utah doesn't allow cousin marriages. My sister got married to my khala's beta and she wasn't able to file petition fo her husband as he's considered first cousin so she had to move to Colorado to file for him.
Learn to play with words. If you’re ever asked how you met him…just say you met through family (ie. your parents have known his parents for decades). Technically…that’s not a lie. 
The word “cousin” doesn’t have to be mentioned at all. Going through this thread…it’s obvious that people here have no idea how USCIS works when it comes to marriage fraud.