Re: religion vs rasms
It was in Pak where there is a rule of having a single main dish at weddings to avoid wastage. Not really a religious thing but why would you flaunt the rule unless you wanted to prove something?
If I’m invited I attend because it doesn’t bother me too much personally what other people do, I just didn’t want that for myself and neither are the rest of my family into it. But I have to stay that unless it’s a cousin or something where we have to stay until the end otherwise it would be rude, we don’t stay long. And thinking about it, in the last however many years, the only mehndi’s/dolkhi’s I have been to are family ones and they were strictly ladies only.
And since you asked a reason, my personal reason is that all the wedding ‘stuff’ really just has no bearing on the life you are going to lead later so I wasn’t bothered about it being minimal.