What do you tell them? I don’t have a problem helping a friend or a relative but when you know the money is going towards a luxury and not a need …how do u say NO.
People don’t plan their finances and when they run out of cash ..instead of learning a lesson they start asking for money to maintain their stupid lifestyle..how dumb is that.
You can’t be blunt and u can’t dish out money for stupid reasons either…what do u do.
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ive had only some close relatives asking me for money
and i just cant...say no...to them
id rather skip my own lunch or something but give em the $ coz i jus cant say no to them
even if sometimes i do say no....happenned twice...then after a few minutes something goes crazy in my head and i start feelin bad n im like ok please take it
but thankfully my close relatives r the type who dont take advtg and only ask me when they really need the $
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Ok so that doesn't help :-p
This relative of mine has a surakh in her hand...she spends her own money like crazy..doosroN ki baat hi choRain
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yeah i know this relative of mine has a sooraakh in their hand too
but kee kariye
i do tell em to close that suraakh :D (and believe me they do try) but its jus that that surakh is jus there n they cant help it
and if i can give em some luxury then why not
i dont think u shud refuse certain relatives if u have the $, no matter what, unless they want money for something totally outrageous in which case a simple NO R U CRAZY??? can do :D
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soorakh = hole rite?
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I haven’t been into that situation but you know what I’d do? When they ask me for money, I’ll start my own dukhrey saying how I am out of money and I was also gonna ask someone for money because expenses are increasing day by day and there’s no income and just start that lecture, they’ll think “kithey phass gaya mein” 
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^shikra bad boy 
u should give it if u have it. if I do manage to pass my degree…and get a good job…I will try to help out others as much as possible. I will give to the poor people who really need it the most…thats my ambition 
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Well as Fayz mentioned: Helping out people in need of money is one thing but helping out people tou fulfill their luxurious lifestyle desires is another and I am against that. I am not trying to look down upon anyone and I say this fearing Allah: Some people have no money to eat and they would borrow money just so they could have mercedes to show off, cell phones, bigger houses, brand names etc. I mean come on, use common sense!
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ok if u meant to them kind of people then I agree with you
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just tell that u r broke...make any excuse
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It can't be that hard to say no to something that you know is wrong! You have every idea of what the money is going to be used for, so don't buy into it... You don't even have to make an excuse. Instead, make them understand that it's not a very good idea. They will turn to another relative to ask for money if not you. What good is it going to do? Confront them!
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in this case it means free hand without care
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i agree with shikra bahi :)
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if its going toward luxury than i wont give it to them.. but if they desperatley need it i might let them borrow some ( im a cheap a ss and i would have them pay me back) n if i had long lost relatives come an ask me for money i wouldnt give it to them..
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tell them you took out a loan and are now paying it back..... sorry
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In your case yes give them otherwise they will not speak to you. But ask them when they are goin to return to you if by given date they don’t return or inform you that they will not be able to pay u back until sometime then fine. When they ask next time tell them sorry you don’t have spare cos you have investedyour money… I am sure they will get the message
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HA HA HA....
all the relatives (or non-relatives) of my father keep asking him for money every now and then. They know he is very generous to everyone. Although, they all have the same "loss in business" story to tell. Many of his friends, his cousins, our cousins and aunts and many I do not even know who they are. Now that my dad has realised that not much has left for his own children, he is a little careful but he cant help it. I've given up on him trying to explain who is what!!!!
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Hey lets hear from the ppl who borrow money for luxurious purposes...... or is every1 too shy to admit that they're one of those ppl? :p
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I borrow money and lend money to immediate family. I don't see a problem with it, because we always agree on terms of payment beforehand and stick to it. For example, when i bought my first car, I asked my dad to lend me $4000 for the downpayment and told him I'd pay him back $1000 for 4 months. He agreed, the deal was done, I paid back.
If immediate family can help each other out, then they should, that's what family is for.
I'd be wary of lending out to cousins and stuff though ..... that's where things can start getting messy.
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I think when its parents and ur siblings it's different...they're ur immediate family...if i gave money to my mom i wudnt expect her to pay me back for it nor wud i ask....its when they're distant relatives, aunts, uncles, etc that i wud be wary of....if i were to ask for money back, they'd go "hawwww hai kitnay kameenay"