spoko
February 22, 2012, 7:51am
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Re: Relatives in Pakistan!
I don’t understand - what is so private in your lives that you want to hide from your cousins here or there or where ever? We all have our cousins outside & they are added in our lists too. Neither were we dying to add nor are we so intrigued by their lives to do so.
We just belong to family settings where cousins are considered your brothers-sisters partly. Most of the people here live in joint families & connect with each other very well. Since we all consider our cousins out of Pakistan as cousins the same way we would like to connect with them.
Many a times our relatives visited & all cousins & family would take days off from work to give them time, plan events, functions, get-togethers just for them to have fun equally. Mostly, at the end comments from these same people are that people here try to get into our lives whereas they are willing to give a major chunk of theirs happily. Similarly, if any of our family members visited them no one ever takes days off, gives time the same way. Wonder why but family priority is way too high for people here and that is taken as invasion by others.
I am sorry but i think it is pretty snobbish to avoid phone calls when some one from far away just wants to know how you’re doing. I am pretty sure they don’t call you every single day, they have their own lives too.
Let me tell you what we want to hide. When I was in Pakistan I changed my fb status as ‘can’t wait to be back in Canada’ cuz I was missing my friends. My fasadi family started fasad saying how I couldn’t wait to leave them. My dad obviously took their side and it created such drama over such a small issue. That is just one example of the kind of things I would personally want to avoid. Trust me, some people deserve to be kept blocked for life …