My relatives in Pakistan (Cousins, khala chachi etc etc) they are all pretty clingy, when my parents call they want to speak with me and my siblings, even though we have nothing in common when we are in pakistan they push this fake ‘closeness’ on us, and act like their our best friends, it get pretty damn annoying
I have avoided adding my pakistani cousins on facebook, but they have bugged my parents so I have almost been forced to add them just so they won’t call every single day and say things like “oh we’re hurt, we’re cousins but your kids won’t add us, what have we ever done to them nag nag nag!” to my parents.
I have added them, or added their ‘main profile’ but they have other profiles like one of them has a 2nd profile called ‘hum tum’ and a 3rd profile called ‘meri jaan’, now i really don’t want to add those fazool profiles, i don’t see the point of people making them and these cousins have 2-4 fazool profiles
I don’t have a habit of adding people I don’t know or people I have only meet a few times, so when adding them I had to adjust some settings so they could not see my pictures etc etc
I don’t even know these cousins, I’ve seen them a couple of times when we where in pakistan and know who they are but thats it, but they insist on getting ‘close’ to us and I am not comfortable with this and no matter how much i try to explain this to them, they just don’t understand and if I block their fake profiles they just create new once …
Create a second profile just for cousins and family and trick them into thinking that’s your “official” one. I don’t have a FB anymore but when I did, I had the same thing w/ cousins and family adding me. I created a 2nd profile and that worked fine until I eventually deleted it, heh.
Also, your attitude is UBER-snarky. You aren’t doing them a favor by talking to them or adding them on Facebook. They are family, of course they’re bound to want to talk to you. :halo:
I know what my post may come across as 'snarky' but I am a very private person and to be honest I do not know these people, my parents are related to them, yes, but I don't know them and they can't take a hint. I choose my own 'friends/people i wanna talk to' so I don't like 'friendships' being pushed on me.
I know what my post may come across as 'snarky' but I am a very private person and to be honest I do not know these people, my parents are related to them, yes, but I don't know them and they can't take a hint. I choose my own 'friends/people i wanna talk to' so I don't like 'friendships' being pushed on me.
They're my cousins who live in Pakistan and they tend to snoop, so I have to think twice when writing something on facebook, or putting up a picture AND tell my friends not to tag me on a check-in made later in the evening or whatever ... orh the stress!
waise how rude of some of you blocking your cousins, if you dont want to add them then don't tell them that you are on fb & don't give your e-mail to them so they can't find you.
but they have other profiles like one of them has a 2nd profile called 'hum tum' and a 3rd profile called 'meri jaan', now i really don't want to add those fazool profiles ...
Ulti
You should show your parents their besharam usernames and maybe they'll stop pressuring you.
Awww, sounds horrible man. Those jerks of relatives. How dare they be nice to you while they should be treating you like crap Woe them.
Girl, get rid of your issues and start behaving already. Like somebody above said, they are not doing a favour to you by talking to you. They are your relatives and probably care about you, thats why they want to talk to you.
A lot of people nowadays don’t care about others anymore. They dont give a sh!t whether you are their cousin or neice or even a sibling. Real closeness/care tau door ki baat hai, people dont even care to fake it.
So consider yourself lucky that you have relatives who do care and stop acting like a spoilt arrogant brat.
Not giving your email out doesn’t mean they won’t find you. :o I never give my email out and they still manage to find me. I don’t mind adding those who I know won’t chat about me. You get some relatives who only want to be on your profile so they can go back to their parents and chat about you.
They are family and they are making an effort!! Add them and get to know them. They aren't asking for money, just a chance to get to know you. Just politely tell them one fb profile at a time.
Woe them.
