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my hubby is my best friend, my partner in life, my lover, the father of my 3 beautiful boys....in short, he's my universe. There is nothing I'd ever feel funny talking to him about, nothing I'd ever hide from him. I guess that says it all...I am one lucky gal.
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^verizon stole Mamaof3's password
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lol!!
sorry funguy, its really me, mamaof3...missing my VZ-saab and gunning for a camping trip to vermont with my 4 boys!
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Thats so sweet mama :)
I dun know where we are at. Out of 11months marriage i've stayed in uk 4 n half. Sooooo we have a long way to go yet..
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DD its the first few years that u have to really put a lot of effort in to the marraige. The more you stay away from him the tougher time you will have. I hope not but that is what I have seen. Get him to move with you if you can, try not to stay apart so often. I;m not trying to poke my nose in ur business, just my 2 cents.
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FF, LOL@poking your nose. Common...i appreciate your advice ma love. Inshallah i'm gonna move to UK and hes gonna be coming here so the distance apart thing won't be happening again lol
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:D Hope it works out.
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even though most of us are really comfortable with our spouses, are there certain things you wouldn't tell? the other day my friend got hit on by a guy at a fastfood place and she wasn't sure if she should tell her husband how she got all that extra free food that she took home with her...... she decided she would just tell him she got the food for him.
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Explain. There is something here that I am not able to register.
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maybe the guy was just being nice.. doesn't mean he wants to marry her ?
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no the guy was definitely hitting on her. he gave her extra food and told her it's because she's beautiful.
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This really baffles me. Some women are living in nostalgia after marriage. SHouldn’t you be working very hard towards getting your future life (that is your husband and children if any) and not be spending half the time with your parents? Were you not ready for marriage? Why not do something that will help you move forward? spending so much time with parents seems like a step in the wrong direction. Move on, chica.
Sorry if I sound rude… You know I don’t mean it.
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She took that food and preferred not to tell her hubby about it? She seems to have been taken away by the flattery and decided to keep it secret. The guy definitely at fault, wont you say the gal to be equally involved?
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No probs babe.
I don’t have a problem with marriage as much as i do with living away in a different country. I am working on it. Inshallah, given time we will both be living in UK 
And yes, i did underestimate how much moving country would affect me. Didn’t pay it too much thought and it ends up with me wanting to come home everytime i go there. But like i say…i’m working on it.
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Gals have their ways these days and they are very focussed on how to get what they want. I can see how much efforts, formal and informal, you would be putting in to get him to UK. 
Just reminding you that what you feel in his country, he would be feeling exactly the same in yours so why afterall your will should prevail while its ‘his’ will that has to! 
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I dont have time for a relationship. I spend too much time at work, at gupshup and flirting on trains while commuting to be having relationships, and that too with my wife.
And doesnt wife imply relationship to begin with, what a silly but cute question.
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that’s why i was asking you guys what you think about keeping certain things from your spouse. i think she didn’t want to tell her husband because she didn’t want to make him jealous.
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from my experience with uk girls, it seems to me they are very nostalgic......i personally know five girls from the uk from different families who got married to guys in either the us or canada and two of them ended in divorce because the girls didn't want to leave the uk and the others would frequently go back for extended visits. sometimes it's so ridiculous that they don't even want to move somewhere else in the uk. i find it really odd that they have this attitude and i think it's very impractical. i mean it's part of life to get married and move away if you have to. if they don't want to leave the uk, why do they marry outside of it? also you never know what your future holds for you. who knows, you might marry some guy who lives down the street from your parents and his job will get transferred somewhere else. i also have a lot of friends in the us and canada who moved away from wherever they lived all there lives and they were much more practical. i don't know what it is but it's very strange.
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Begum and I are the best of friends, confidants, supporters, cheer leaders, advocates for each other. There are people in your life that mean so much to you, I mean aside from blood relatives who else can be this close to one. Last year when she almost died, I just felt that the world was ending, I was walking around like a zombie not knowing what to do.
We have our differences, and different perspectives but that has made the 2 of us more complete people. begum and I are pretty close, we have been able to do our own thing but at the same time introduce one another to our other interests and passions. While she has become a car freak like me, I understand the difference bwteen mid century modern and art deco from her, while now she sits and cheers and Arsenal play, I picked up friends, while now she enjoys listening to kreaftwerk and daft punk, I have picked up more on Ramones and the cure. While she has become interested in desi food, I have become a fan of thai cooking.
meri aankohon mein meri aankhon say
meray sapnon ko dekho
meray geeton ki bikhri saanson mein
apnay naam ko dekho
This is part of a song I had written for her before we got married, this is as true today as it was then.
Begum, I love you..
Now make me a sammich, I am coming home..
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awww thats so sweet Mr. Fraudia, your very lucky that your wife supports Arsenal, does she fancy Henry too?