Relationship with your bhabi ( sister in-law) and dhulabahi ( brother in-la

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Re: Relationship with your bhabi ( sister in-law) and dhulabahi ( brother in-la

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Salaams All

Its typical of asian families that the brother in-law is accepted to joke around with his elder brothers wife. It could be his elder cousins wife or anyone else he regards as an older brother who has a wife.

I have seen people joking with their bhabi and some of the discussions and jokes are very explicit and filthy.

Also it is accepted to get physical in terms of the joking and I have seen this as well, often unintentionally certain parts of the body is touched, but since its only joking and messing about it is seen as normal.

The result of such joking and messing about is that it sometimes leads to fornication and again I have heard of many such cases. The child of such a liason is brought up not knowing who the father is and the real father does not know that his nephew/neice is actually his son/ daughter.

I would like to know the views of other members on this:

How can we prevent such practices?

How do we explain to our parents/ elders who are pious in terms of their ibadat that such things is haram?

And have you seen or experienced such cultural practices?

Nauzobillah! My brother in law would keep distance as myself, even with father in law. Id rotten spoil them by cooking great meals and plan picknicks etc. but never had any free tone or joking beyond limits…
Infact, AJ would always get concerned when he saw me worried. He would ask about his elder brother if everything was ok and would say…Bhabi, we have given him into your hands, he listens to none. You have a good influence on him. I would wear chador, not even make up when I was with in laws.
We come from strict background ourselves and his family were very religious…nobody ever saw my mother in law be-hijab or even her hands.

I think, it all comes down to how own mother has been. I dont joke or talk openly with mamajaan so it was same with mother in law, yet I loved her just as my own mum. I would dress up when hubby and I were together or we would go out, even then I had medium lenthy black shawl covered over me…I didnt wear scarf but my mother in law respected my ways/dress code.

Ive never heard such a thingy b4 neither encountered it. Brother in laws are like own brothers and Islam teaches us to keep distance/haya. Really disgusting if the reality is lie that out there..... :bummer: