Its typical of asian families that the brother in-law is accepted to joke around with his elder brothers wife. It could be his elder cousins wife or anyone else he regards as an older brother who has a wife.
I have seen people joking with their bhabi and some of the discussions and jokes are very explicit and filthy.
Also it is accepted to get physical in terms of the joking and I have seen this as well, often unintentionally certain parts of the body is touched, but since its only joking and messing about it is seen as normal.
The result of such joking and messing about is that it sometimes leads to fornication and again I have heard of many such cases. The child of such a liason is brought up not knowing who the father is and the real father does not know that his nephew/neice is actually his son/ daughter.
I would like to know the views of other members on this:
How can we prevent such practices?
How do we explain to our parents/ elders who are pious in terms of their ibadat that such things is haram?
And have you seen or experienced such cultural practices?
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yeah its common 4 a brother in law to joke about with his elder brother’s wife but i didnt knw that it was common 4 the jokes to be explicit, i mean most ppl knw whn 2 draw the line, though why any1 wud want 2 make such joke with their sis - in- law is farnkly beyond me. I have heard a few stories of affairs between brother and sis in law, which is totally shocking, but again i think this is rare isn’t it ???
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I dont think this is the norm....and I def dont think it is accepted among our culture. I have no idea what kind of family would accept "explicit and filthy talk" among a BIL and his bhabi and consider it to be "normal"!!
If for some reason I have turned a blind eye about this matter and our culture does indeed accept such behavior.......then our culture is disgusting and the families are perverted and have certainly gone astray from the righteous path of Islam. I would steer clear from such a family even if it was my own!!
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and moreover what kind of an ass would promote his wife to flirt with his brother????? shouldn't he be possessive if he finds his wife to be such a harlot??!! if she thinks it's a joke.. the husband should definitely be the man n draw the line!
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Salaams All
Its typical of asian families that the brother in-law is accepted to joke around with his elder brothers wife. It could be his elder cousins wife or anyone else he regards as an older brother who has a wife.
I have seen people joking with their bhabi and some of the discussions and jokes are very explicit and filthy.
Also it is accepted to get physical in terms of the joking and I have seen this as well, often unintentionally certain parts of the body is touched, but since its only joking and messing about it is seen as normal.
The result of such joking and messing about is that it sometimes leads to fornication and again I have heard of many such cases. The child of such a liason is brought up not knowing who the father is and the real father does not know that his nephew/neice is actually his son/ daughter.
I would like to know the views of other members on this:
How can we prevent such practices?
How do we explain to our parents/ elders who are pious in terms of their ibadat that such things is haram?
And have you seen or experienced such cultural practices?
I have never seen it..but that doesn,t mean it is not there..but i would find it very discusting...:o
Re: Relationship with your bhabi ( sister in-law) and dhulabahi ( brother in-la
lolzzzzz dhulabhai . omg that is so hilarious . y do ppl call theyre brother - in law dhula bhai . hahaha
ok newayz gtting to the point i think that there should be a limit to jokes btw bhabhi and devar and there should also b respect . this touching and xplicit jokes are sick . personally i hve never seen such practises but i think thats disgusting
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Frank relationnship b/w Bhabhi and Devar? This saying of Prophet :saw: says it all
Narrated 'Uqba bin 'Amir: Allah’s Apostle said, “Beware of entering upon the ladies.” A man from the Ansar said, “Allah’s Apostle! What about Al-Hamu the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.)?” The Prophet replied: The in-laws of the wife are death itself.
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oh common....people with dirty minds will always think dirty about any relationship weather its between BIL n SIL or cousins...i mean i have two dewars and they joke aloooot to me but in their limits...i really consider them as my brothers and they respect me as their older sister...like my youngest dewar is only a year younger than me so he calls me Bobby instead of Bhabhi...and i think thats sweet...
i think theres is nothing weird or wrong in joking with your brother-in-law or sister-in-law as long as its stay in their limits!
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WTH kind of a norm is this? A brother-in-law is a na-Mehram...For a brother to live in the same house as a married brother is death according to a Hadith...
Touching aside even inappropriate jokes are a nono...
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WTH kind of a norm is this? A brother-in-law is a na-Mehram...For a brother to live in the same house as a married brother is death according to a Hadith...
Touching aside even inappropriate jokes are a nono...
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WTH kind of a norm is this? A brother-in-law is a na-Mehram...For a brother to live in the same house as a married brother is death according to a Hadith...
Touching aside even inappropriate jokes are a nono...
correction: the hadith says...."a brother-in-law is like death"......
i have no idea what you are talking about above...there is no mention of the living situation in the hadith.
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^ He does have to move out of his parent's house when he marries, unless the house has a separate kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, and sitting area with locks for his wife. It is his wife's Islamic right to separate accomodation, and if she chooses to forfeit that, then fine, otherwise her husband is depriving her of her rights, and will have to answer to Allah (swt) for it. If they choose to stay, his wife has to observe hijaab and proper adaab in front of her husband's brothers.
The reason for the hadith "the in-laws are death" is because the "joking" and "flirtatious" relationship has the potential to lead to something more serious.
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What kind of thought is this, it like thining about ur own sisters, to me bhabies are teh one who replaces ur sister, we marry our sisters out and get bhabies in.
In this single relation one can found the nixture of three, thats is mother, sister and bhabi ofcourse.
The most interesting part abuot bhabi is that they are from different family and brought up in different enviornment, so they bring some fresh thoughts in the house... ( which ofcourse mom don't like ) and u enjoy two fantastic meals of ur choice at same time.
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It almost look llike that the common person whose dirty mind you talked about was "Prophet Mohammed :saw: " ( ) because the hadees about relationship being death is his, not ours. Please be careful about your choice of words, next time
With due respect, when the husband of one’s mother or the husband of one’s sister died, one cannot marry his mother or sister. WHen husband of one;s bhabhi died, one can
Only this difference is huge enough to see how aprt these realtions are
) because the hadees about relationship being death is his, not ours. Please be careful about your choice of words, next time