I am sure most of the guys here want to have a GF/wife who is modern, smart,outgoing,intellectual etc.But would you go as far as being with some one who is a “STAUNCH” feminist.Like in every talk and walk she bring up those issues.Even take part in those rallies and workshops.Who you guys put up with these women or let them go…?
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Why? Why would you curse a man with living with such a woman for the rest of his life? I would not wish that even on my worst enemy! It going to be a living hell! I think suicide in such cases is not haraam even!
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I like strong opinionated women who have positive things to say but to be married to someone who doesn't talk about anything else but these issues can be terrible.
From your posts and threads however, I can tell that you have extreme dislike for feminists. A good balance is always better than anything.
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Some people are obsessed with the stock market, and that's all they want to talk about. Should we not marry those kind of men? Or the scientists. Jeez, they never make any sense and use big words all the time. Should we not marry them? And the docs. Always talking about poop and vomit. Should we not marry them? And the lawyers, always talking about criminal cases, should we not marry them?
Farhan, I'd be more worried if someone doesn't have much to talk about. They have no passion in life. What is wrong with marrying someone who does a lot in a certain field, and that too, to help vulnerable women out and make them stronger. She is doing things that will make life easier for your mother and sister. Look at it that way (because I know you Pakistani boys are raised to only care about your maa-behn, and every other girl can go to the ditches).
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And i don't know why, these are the only type of women who like me
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Farhan unless ur wifey to be is a feminist....i'd suggest stop worrying so much about others' lives?
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And Farhan, what is your obsession? Maybe we can warn her about it, so she doesn't have to listen to ad nauseum stories about it.
You don't like to listen to feminist stories. Likewise, women have their pet peeves too.
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If you do not like such women, surely you would avoid them and not get into any kind of relationship with them:konfused:
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In that household, it's the woman who wears the pants, and the man who mops the floor.
Why? Why would you curse a man with living with such a woman for the rest of his life? I would not wish that even on my worst enemy! It going to be a living hell! I think suicide in such cases is not haraam even!
lol Seems true.
In that household, it's the woman who wears the pants, and the man who mops the floor.
i was just about to say that myself
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I know such a relationship will be a challenge. I am not a feminist but I am very liberal in my views about most things. When I don't agree with something I come across as ill-mannered or just plain rude. Marry someone like that only if you can handle her... If not, don't bother. She WILL find somebody else.
I know such a relationship will be a challenge. I am not a feminist but I am very liberal in my views about most things. When I don't agree with something I come across as ill-mannered or just plain rude. Marry someone like that only if you can handle her... If not, don't bother. She WILL find somebody else.
Are you saying that's what you are, or is that what people perceive you as being because you disagree with them?
Are you saying that's what you are, or is that what people perceive you as being because you disagree with them?
No, I don't personally think I am ill-mannered or rude. BUT I have heard it from several people that I am rude or disrespectful when I am expressing my disagreement with them...so I am starting to think may be I am a bit rude. I am too critical or too liberal for their taste.
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Maybe. I have seen some people throw serious hissy fits because someone didnt agree with them--even though they were pretty respectful of their opinion.
Then again sometimes passion can be mistaken for rudeness.
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Too much of anything is bad...isnt it?
If we have too much chocolate, we get fat. If we have too much male bravado, we get irritated. If we have too much of an ego, we get sick. If we have too much of feminism...we get annoyed.
I dont believe a woman like that would find it easy to be with any man aside from someone she can push around.
Moderation is key. :)
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Khumar that is not true. I see myself as a feminist, and I wouldn't let him mop the floors. At least not ALL the time. Maybe like 50% of the time, and I'll mop the other 50%.
I think that's fair.
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Great example of work being done by “feminists” which is being stopped by religious clergy representatives in the government.
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Now, you’re telling me a woman who trying to fight this insanity is someone you would not want to marry? You telling me someone who upholds the following rights is repulsive? You should not marry women, then period.
- Rights to work for a living without harassment
- Rights to equal pay for equal work to what is done by a man
- Rights for child support
- Rights for alimony after divorce, or rights to uphold payment of haq mehr’s after divorce (which conveniently, it is common for men to abandon that part of the agreement)
- Rights to education
- Right to be married at an appropriate age after given a chance for an education
- Right to not be bullied by in-laws.
- Right to have her rapist punished with as least resistance as possible.
- Right to report a sexual crime without receiving a punishment
- Stricter punishments for Karo Kari, and domestic violence
- Stricter punishments for harassment on the street (grabbing in bazaars, etc)
- No dress code of burqa or other such religious garments
- Right to demand a separate residence from her in-laws if husband’s finances allow it.
- Right to her inheritance.
- Right to her husband’s wealth in the event her husband dies so she is not destitute.
Need I go on? All things you would want for your mother and sisters, so why is it wrong if a girl works towards solving these type of problems?
Nothing wrong with it but dont wana talk and listen to it 24/7.