Re: relationship dillema
Thank you so much for the honest feedback everyone, really appriciate it and needed it. First off, my bf has completely changed since we became official as I said before, he is a very hard worker, and he takes care of his whole family bills and he is very honest, he does respect me and he is geniunely a very caring person towards me and his family. His issues with my social life really bother me, I used to be a very independent person, and now I am emotionally dependant on him. His family is just plain wierd i am scared that somehow he is going to be like them. **Yes I repent the sin I’ve committed but don’t you guys think it would be a bigger sin to walk out and leave him? I would feel like a complete slut who got her pleasure and walked out afterwards. **he loves me, cares for me, and wants to be with me. I dont think I can change the few things in him, and definitely not his family at all. And say if I do breakup with him, who will marry me? I cannot tell my parents they are not in the condition to bear this fact at all and nor will be ever. Oh, and he is not the kind who would blackmail my parents and stuff or go around and tell people of what we’ve done. He doesnt have any friends at all to start off with so I dont know anyone who he would tel. Once again thank you for the honest replies. I really did need a third person opinion.
Erm, if you leave, YOU’RE the one who’s using him for sex…that’s what he’s said to you right?
Go back to your first post where you said:
The thing is we have a little age dif, im 20 and he is 25. Now during the time period of 3 years on and off I was crazy over him. I guess its because he didnt give me much attention and treated me like crap. He was with other females and what not. All he would ask was to spend the night with him. I refused and would change the topic as much as I could but then came a day that I lost it and had to give up to his begging, and to prove to him that I really do love him and will do anything to get him( I lost my morals and went to a real low point, I lost self respect for myself that day). I was still not given enough attention but he didnt cheat on me and was honest after that .
Does this sound like someone who’ll be heartbroken because the gril he had sex with broke up with him? I doubt it.
and to answer your question NO its not a sin to walk out and leave him…I wonder where did you hear this from?
Everyone else has given you really good advice–in the end it’s YOUR choice to stay with him or leave him…as the saying goes, the writing is on the wall.