relationship dillema

ZareenKhan · August 18, 2011, 4:30pm

Re: relationship dillema

^@ZareenKhan - See this is where we start assuming what her family’s like. My parents are the nontraditional type and if i had done something like that, I wouldn’t dare tell them about it. OP has already said a few times, her family is pretty conservative. She is already embarrassed, why add to it? She realizes her mistakes but the world doesn’t need to know about her mistakes. She shouldn’t be persecuted for what she has done and our community unfortunately does just that.

P.S. I know too many such cases personally and the guy never blackmails the girl. If he does, she denies it and he shuts up unless he is a complete A-hole and wants revenge. This isn’t Pakistan and things like that are too common now. If she tells her parents now, they will never look at her the same.

Ok this may sound like i m tryin to rub into her wounds but honestly she must have known how conservative and traditional her family is even when she went ahead with this relationship? Why? because she had the guts to go for it. So i would hope she can use her guts here too. However, if she doesnt feel strong enough for that, well i guess she can lie about it if it helps her case.

Honestly, i understand when you say that her parents will never look at her the same way but i think if she honestly repents it, things can change for her. And chalo lets say her parents don’t find out, will her inner conscience let her at peace? I think by sharing it with her parents, she will get some of the burden off her chest and at the same time have someone to guard her from any blackmailing the guy might try for.