Rejection during the rishta hunting process. Is it really that big of a deal?
Usually the rejections are totally based on physical attributes. So is one’s self really tied to how you look? Isn’t that a bit sad?
IMO it should be a big deal if there is a yes, everything’s prepped and then the other party backs out. Then it might to me seem like a huge freakin’ deal vs omg some random people i’ve never ever ever seen in my life are going to drink chai and eat biscuits and if they don’t like me i’m going to slit my wrists and die!
AWESOME! At least someone will post instead of they being ignored
That’s the thing…shouldn’t the girls be told there is more to them than their moles/weight/beauty/hair waghaira waghaira. There are SO many threads in life1 right now which makes me wonder what is happening to our society! (ok that part was just for dramatics)
Physical attributes are and will always be the first filter when it comes to women. I am inviting the wrath of many for saying this but mostly the girls’ education is nothing more than adding value to the wedding CV. However in men’s case, its more the qualification, job, income, lifestyle and such. Looks do matter but definitely not the determining factor.
yeah well most of the time these things aren’t told to the potential. no one is going to say to the amma “sorry we are rejecting your daughter because your husband/son is a street washer”. the girl however is still absolutely dejected for being rejected.
not denying that. but that’s what i’m saying…even the drop dead gorgeous ones tend to get rejected and it’s like then their self-esteem drops down to absolute zero and they’re all depressed and stuff. it’s like…whaaa? 0_o you do realize you’re super duper gorgeous right? so why are you all mopey if some random person said no to you.
the girl needs to understand that rejection is part of the process…kind of a necessary evil… and making girls understand is parent’s job (if girls can) about self esteem and depression and stuff…all that
and why girls get so mopey n depressed…well girls can answer that … what do i know…
ok in all seriousness…not to bash my own gender, but maybe they think they’re just so perfect anyone coming over to see them is automatically going to fall in love with them and will be lining up to make them their bahu/wife. so when for whatever reason…it doesn’t work out they’re devastated.
yes…i think its to do with girls having the lala land view of the whole shaadi thing…but parents should be more careful when screening the rishtas that only close possible matches are invited…otherwise if they keep inviting everyone left n right…and rejection thing occurs more…its fault of the rishta screener too…
