If A and B love each other…then some issues come up in relationship questioning whether they shud still be together or not, family probs, constant argument etc…and A somehow felt compelled to break of the relationship.
Do you think:
a) Men (who is A) sometimes make harsh decisions due to being under pressure
b) if that was the case, would A (the man) who is very proud and egotistic, ever feel any regret?
c) Men who are proud and hold their pride on top of anything and everything in the world, would they ever make contact with someone they once loved?
Basically what I am trying to say is, if A really regretted breaking up with B - how can B know this if A hasnt made contact? I think B is just trying to reassure herself and have fake thoughts about A missing her so she feels better?
But what would stop A from contacting B? PRIDE…?
I think Pride is the biggest role here because he didnt contact B for about a year, if he is ASHAMED to contact her due to his harsh decision - at least he can email? if not call or text.
Basically what I am trying to say is, if A really regretted breaking up with B - how can B know this if A hasnt made contact? I think B is just trying to reassure herself and have fake thoughts about A missing her so she feels better?
if B still loves A (like filmoN wala love) and cannot bear the thought of getting over A, B needs to go where A is, stop him on the way, slap him really hard, and ask him What the hell is the problem?
Repeat the above till you get your answers.
(I read your previous threads).
Other option could be to keep waiting forever for A - but i would not encourage that.
the other day i was listening to a psychiatrist who was giving advice on how to deal with a break up and he said that when A leaves u/ignores u/is with someone else, he/she will definitely still be missing u with the same intensity as u r missing him/her. the reason being A has a history with u, good memories etc etc while with the new person that A is with, A will have to start from "zero" .. That psychiatrist assured this thing that no one forgets so easily BUT it has to be TRUE LOVE between them before..If A was being a flirt then i doubt he might be missing B..
^ exactly !!! no one forgets the moments which had been spent with their loved ones but if A is a flirter so its easy for him to move on in search of another B
if A wanted B back in his life he would have been contacted her. There isnt anything which can stop him by keeping in touch with B
i think it would b a stupidness if B waits for A n ruins her life. So better she try to live without A n make her mind not to think every now n then about B
the other day i was listening to a psychiatrist who was giving advice on how to deal with a break up and he said that when A leaves u/ignores u/is with someone else, he/she will definitely still be missing u with the same intensity as u r missing him/her. the reason being A has a history with u, good memories etc etc while with the new person that A is with, A will have to start from "zero" .. That psychiatrist assured this thing that no one forgets so easily BUT it has to be TRUE LOVE between them before..If A was being a flirt then i doubt he might be missing B..
In my own A+B situation, this really helped me Neha. Thank you!
B isnt really 'waiting' for A to come back - because she thinks that the chances are slim due to the bad parting they had.
A isnt/wasnt a flirt. they spent a good deal of time together. Ever heard of the saying: its not how long u know someone, its how well you know them. They been together for 2 years though, but they did really know each other too. A was surely no flirt i can assure u that.
But B is wondering - if there was more to the story that she isnt aware of. E.g. A's family were involved and so was B's - but B's parents didnt know. others did.
So due to caste differences the dad of A was against it. Now B is thinking if A got threatened by older siblings or even the dad to break up with B or else...I dont know. A is not from UK, his on visa.
This cultural thing may be the main issue which A was unable to explain to B. Or there maybe another girl...which B is unable to accept due to their strong relationship. Or there could be the whole ego and I beleive that to some extent. But if A broke B's heart so cruely - what face can he show B after that? im sure u all understand that he may be ashamed of his behaviour and not able to face B?
After the break up A text B two or three weeks later to say sorry and didnt mean it. But B ignored because she didnt want to give in so easily. But after that ONE TEXT - there was no other contact. has A definately found someone else that his able to move on so easily? doesnt he even want to contact B anymore even insaniyat ki khatir? even to send one email to ask how B is? would that hurt his ego so much?
Why is B even concerned? why cant she get over that bludy A? its indirectly ruining her life.
doesnt he even want to contact B anymore even insaniyat ki khatir?
Thats where the problem begins, this is when the red flags should go up! once ur done with somebody you better shove that instinct deep down an old suitcase cuz bringing it up will open a pandora's box.
B is feeling suicidal. she cant think straight. every night she thinks of A and cries. why is A making her suffer so much?
A doesnt even contact her, but B still thinks of him and loves him. She is mad. why is she wasting her time loving someone like A. why is love such a evil feeling?
I wonder if A is sitting in his room thinking about B and wondering why she hasn't contacted him yet? In the end, it all just comes to pride. He texted you and you didn't text him back so he's waiting for your text back, maybe? Well, whatever the reasons, time kept moving and didn't slow down. You are losing precious time now. You can be satisfied 1) that you had such a connection with a person that you can't get out of your head and smile about it. 2)Contact him. 3)Keep thinking about him everyday but still try to move on. It's a special thing that happened but it ended badly. I don't think A means to make you suffer, honestly, and please don't do anything risky like a suicide attempt because it won't bring you closer to him or him to you. It might devastate him if he ever found out it was because of him. What about your family, how would they feel? You leave so much behind and you have so much to live for. If you are really feeling suicidal please get some help and pray to Allah to give you strength and save you from doing that.
As hard as it maybe, I think you need to spend some time alone by yourself (like not go out or do activities to divert ur attention). This will make u become stronger because if you can overcome the hurt in ur time of loneliness then you'll not need another person to help you get over someone or someone won't have the power to ever hurt you again like A did. When you are comfortable with your loneliness then that's when you find happiness because the worst thing someone will be able to do to you is bring you down to your comfort zone.