Regretting breaking up....?

[Mabrook]

Re: Regretting breaking up....?

If A really wants to contact B...there is nothing in the world that could stop him. Absolutely nothing.

Will his fingers set on fire if he sends a text?

Will his computer spontaneously combust if he sends an email?

Will he get chicken pox if he calls you?

NO

If a man wants to call you...he will pick up the phone and call. No amount of pride or ego will hold a man back if he wants you back in his life.

Stop wasting your time and move on to someone who can truly appreciate you.

Lol Reha u reminded me of one of my best friend. she used to say similar thing" mujhhay phone kertay tumhari ungli dukhti hai kia?"

[Mabrook]

Re: Regretting breaking up....?

B is feeling suicidal. she cant think straight. every night she thinks of A and cries. why is A making her suffer so much?

A doesnt even contact her, but B still thinks of him and loves him. She is mad. why is she wasting her time loving someone like A. why is love such a evil feeling?

B should start praying and remembering Allah n do Qiyam al lail at local masjid. that will giv her peace of mind n heart n good distraction from evil thoughts.

PS: also say it every morning. Barh main gaya A. aisay 100 mil jain gay. and strat fresh....

[pk2010]

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I wonder if A is sitting in his room thinking about B and wondering why she hasn't contacted him yet? In the end, it all just comes to pride. He texted you and you didn't text him back so he's waiting for your text back, maybe? Well, whatever the reasons, time kept moving and didn't slow down. You are losing precious time now. You can be satisfied 1) that you had such a connection with a person that you can't get out of your head and smile about it. 2)Contact him. 3)Keep thinking about him everyday but still try to move on. It's a special thing that happened but it ended badly. I don't think A means to make you suffer, honestly, and please don't do anything risky like a suicide attempt because it won't bring you closer to him or him to you. It might devastate him if he ever found out it was because of him. What about your family, how would they feel? You leave so much behind and you have so much to live for. If you are really feeling suicidal please get some help and pray to Allah to give you strength and save you from doing that.

As hard as it maybe, I think you need to spend some time alone by yourself (like not go out or do activities to divert ur attention). This will make u become stronger because if you can overcome the hurt in ur time of loneliness then you'll not need another person to help you get over someone or someone won't have the power to ever hurt you again like A did. When you are comfortable with your loneliness then that's when you find happiness because the worst thing someone will be able to do to you is bring you down to your comfort zone.

Hi, thank you for your advice.

B does her prayers as much as she can. She prays to Allah to make her stronger and keep her away from bad feelings and thoughts. It does help her through this tough time she is facing. Honestly these are really hard times for her, she feels lost, hopeless, and sad. B does spend alot of time alone. She prefers it that way in fact. This loneliness gives her time to reflect on everything that happend, and also to think deeply of A. Its like a disease.

I agree 100percent that PRIDE is holding back A to contact B. Because its so hard to believe that two people share an immense bond and in one moment they become strangers. This is hard for B to accept. There must be some difficulty A is facing that he is unable to contact B even as a human to another human.

I also wonder if A is waitng for B to contact him. But after the break up and the way it was done, I dont think B is in a position to make the first move. Remeber A told B to cut him out of her life. He told her to leave him. She fought back, but A didnt want to hear it.
Now how can A even think that B may even contact A? Its not possible. A should be the one to contact B.

What can the possibilities be that A even suddenly disappeared from B's life? B is always lost in thought as to what reasons can it be?

Thanks Pukhtun...your message really helped.

[Reha]

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Lol Reha u reminded me of one of my best friend. she used to say similar thing" mujhhay phone kertay tumhari ungli dukhti hai kia?"

Yup, koi chahey to kya kuch nahin karsakta hai doosray ke liye. Lekin chahna zaroori hai.

Hi, thank you for your advice.

B does her prayers as much as she can. She prays to Allah to make her stronger and keep her away from bad feelings and thoughts. It does help her through this tough time she is facing. Honestly these are really hard times for her, she feels lost, hopeless, and sad. B does spend alot of time alone. She prefers it that way in fact. This loneliness gives her time to reflect on everything that happend, and also to think deeply of A. Its like a disease.

I agree 100percent that PRIDE is holding back A to contact B. Because its so hard to believe that two people share an immense bond and in one moment they become strangers. This is hard for B to accept. There must be some difficulty A is facing that he is unable to contact B even as a human to another human.

I also wonder if A is waitng for B to contact him. But after the break up and the way it was done, I dont think B is in a position to make the first move. Remeber A told B to cut him out of her life. He told her to leave him. She fought back, but A didnt want to hear it. Now how can A even think that B may even contact A? Its not possible. A should be the one to contact B.

What can the possibilities be that A even suddenly disappeared from B's life? B is always lost in thought as to what reasons can it be?

Thanks Pukhtun...your message really helped.

B is lost in thought because A did the disappearing and left her with no closure. Thats why. A never really explained himself or tried to give a healthy ending to the relationship.

Had B done the disappearing, these questions would be coming from A's side. Its normal and quite natural to question.

B has to put an end to this...she needs to throw away all reminders, delete emails, texts, change her # if needed and completely disconnect herself in order to heal. She HAS to otherwise she WILL ruin her life.

Find hobbies, charities, volunteer work, etc. In my most difficult times, I noticed helping others helped me too. Something about it gives you the strength to deal with whatever life throws your way.

Its very strange...you just forget whatever has happened for a moment and then there comes a time when you dont think about it at all. Try this...go somewhere and offer your time and help to someone who needs it.

[Zamana]

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Perhaps A is busy making a(s) :D

lolololol

[kaun]

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I would suggest B should just pick up the phone and call A and find out, genuine reply, y i say dat is that the more you extend the more its going to bother you so just call and get it over with, if A is still waiting then woohooo and if not then atleast B will be at peace. Saala yeh ego kahan sey aa jaata hai beech mein

[pk2010]

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Yup, koi chahey to kya kuch nahin karsakta hai doosray ke liye. Lekin chahna zaroori hai.

B is lost in thought because A did the disappearing and left her with no closure. Thats why. A never really explained himself or tried to give a healthy ending to the relationship.

Had B done the disappearing, these questions would be coming from A's side. Its normal and quite natural to question.

B has to put an end to this...she needs to throw away all reminders, delete emails, texts, change her # if needed and completely disconnect herself in order to heal. She HAS to otherwise she WILL ruin her life.

Find hobbies, charities, volunteer work, etc. In my most difficult times, I noticed helping others helped me too. Something about it gives you the strength to deal with whatever life throws your way.

Its very strange...you just forget whatever has happened for a moment and then there comes a time when you dont think about it at all. Try this...go somewhere and offer your time and help to someone who needs it.

Thanks Reha,
B has deleted all msges etc ages ago. but its whats in the mind that is important. How does one get rid of the memories that are embedded deep in the mind and soul of someone?

B does still have a life - she goes out, gym, work, with friends and has a fairly normal life. But u know how it is - when she thinks of him, it comes naturally, an thats when she gets really emotional.

She does help others, and its when she is happy she remembers A. because she thinks how would it have been if they were still together.

[pk2010]

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@kaun

I would suggest B should just pick up the phone and call A and find out, genuine reply, y i say dat is that the more you extend the more its going to bother you so just call and get it over with, if A is still waiting then woohooo and if not then atleast B will be at peace. Saala yeh ego kahan sey aa jaata hai beech mein

Hi Kaun, u know if B had the courage to contact A she would have done so ages ago. and its not only about courage, if u understand exactly the situation and how it ended, then u wouldnt say B shud make the approach. As i said before, B was left shattered and no strings were left to hold onto. B cannot approach A after he made it clear he doesnt want her. A shud contact B. Yes that saala ego is the enemy of the relationship. If B could then she would have changed the way things were between them. But its too late now

[Reha]

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@pk2010

Thanks Reha, B has deleted all msges etc ages ago. but its whats in the mind that is important. How does one get rid of the memories that are embedded deep in the mind and soul of someone?

B does still have a life - she goes out, gym, work, with friends and has a fairly normal life. But u know how it is - when she thinks of him, it comes naturally, an thats when she gets really emotional.

She does help others, and its when she is happy she remembers A. because she thinks how would it have been if they were still together.

The deeper the relationship, the longer the healing process. No one said it would be easy and those who say it are lying. No one said you would be over him immediately either. Time is the healer of all wounds and the only person that can help you out of this is yourself. Sometimes when these relationships go wrong, its because there is something bigger and better waiting for you. One thing you dont want is for that amazing man to show up and you still be pining over your ex.

He is not your future. He is not yours. He was never meant to be. Until you understand that, nothing will help.

[pk2010]

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The deeper the relationship, the longer the healing process. No one said it would be easy and those who say it are lying. No one said you would be over him immediately either. Time is the healer of all wounds and the only person that can help you out of this is yourself. Sometimes when these relationships go wrong, its because there is something bigger and better waiting for you. One thing you dont want is for that amazing man to show up and you still be pining over your ex.

He is not your future. He is not yours. He was never meant to be. Until you understand that, nothing will help.

Aaaaw Reha...your last sentence was painful!

I was ok for couple of days, though he was still in my mind...It didnt bother me much. I was occupied so it was ok. But today i just feel so crap...his thoughts are floodin my brain i feel like screaming.

Eid is coming very soon, I really wanted him to contact me. Why doesnt he text or email me? I sound like a love sick teenager, but its way beyond that.

Im hoping for a miracle to happen. I feel soooooooooo damn depressed.

[PyariCgudia]

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It's simple. If you really care about them then contact them.

If you don't, then leave them alone.

[CM]

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It's simple. If you really care about them then contact them.

If you don't, then leave them alone.

Words of friggin wisdom.

[diwana]

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B should write sad poetry and make money.

What's gone is gone with the past.

No need to lose the present and the future.

[Reha]

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@pk2010

Aaaaw Reha…your last sentence was painful!

I was ok for couple of days, though he was still in my mind…It didnt bother me much. I was occupied so it was ok. But today i just feel so crap…his thoughts are floodin my brain i feel like screaming.

Eid is coming very soon, I really wanted him to contact me. Why doesnt he text or email me? I sound like a love sick teenager, but its way beyond that.

Im hoping for a miracle to happen. I feel soooooooooo damn depressed.

Im sorry hun

I know it was painful but my intention was not to cause pain. I wish someone had smacked me around a few times when I was pining and behaving like an escapee from the loony bin.

Why doesnt he text you or email you? You know why. You’re just hoping our answers are different from what you already know. They’re not.

Good luck and be strong.

[Dania]

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@sheyn

When its OVER , its OVER…regretting breaking up will only prolong the healing process…Move On !

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