Hi there guys
Assuming there is this person who violated (screwed up) his wife’s trust and is now extremely regretful and wants to put things right. Does it make sense to tell the wife what happened which will ofcourse not only damage their relationship but also cause her pain and agony. Or, move on and live with the guilt? Will appreciate your candid response…
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What she does not know, cannot hurt her...remember that, you will thank me someday.
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But if she finds out thru some other source then I'm sure the hubby will get hurt if not her.
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^i totally agree. Dude, whatever happens, don't tell her.!!!!!From your tone, however, it's kind of obvious what you did, so ask for forgiveness from God, or you will be stoned:D
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FF, denial is not just the river in Egypt. :D
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deservedly so, but that would be the easy part.
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tsk.
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Awwww, crap. First you go around dipping your pen in the ink where it does not belong and now you want us to sympathize with you...Shooo, no sympathy here. Keep it in the pants dude and think of this sorry moment you have created here when you get the urge next time. I cannot get any more candid than this
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What would you want your wife to do if she we’re in your shoes?
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^ tell belle that you would not want to know about it. Tell her roxy...tell her...
Somethings are better left in the closet.
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Iam not looking for sympathy, point was being punished is the easy part, that is not something to be proud of…concern is for the other party, not the [email=“assh@le”]assh@le hubby
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Ok, let me state this again...She does not knwo yet, correct? Are you the husband? If not then keep out of it, if yes, then take a look at yourself and answer this" Are you going to induldge in this kind of behavior again? Be honest with yoyrself, if the answer is yes...promptly go over and tell your wife. If not than the first principle applies "What she does not know cannot hurt her"
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^and everytime your snake wants to come out of the cage, remind yourself of the advice you got on GS. Remember God is watching!!!
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and so are the GS mods and they know who you are:D now be a good boy and make some hefty donations to the GS welfare fund or your wife gets to see this post along with your ID details:D sucker
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You mean my husband, right??:D
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Kaleem is right right right.
You have hurt her once, (even though she does not know it), why are you going to hurt her again? Studies have shown that psychologically the other partner WANTS to believe that nothing happened. "Coming Clean" has more to do with your guilt than a need to make her feel better. Lastly, don't ever believe even in your own mind that "she made you do it". Accept that you are a flawed human being, so kick yourself in your ass and do better.
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abay nashay mai hae kia, it was for roxy, not you.
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if she is the kind who wants to know the bitter truth and happily live with it, tell her. but if she is the kind who would rather believe a lie then to hurt her pride knowing that her husband had been screwing around then even if she gets to know from someone else or even if she has watched you doing that with her naked eyes, just sing:
“It wasnt me”…
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What are the chances of the wife finding out? Who else knows and what is their reliability? Is there a videotape that could expose this secret?
Some things are best kept quiet. Repent, make lots of tauba, give sadqa and keep your eager friend tied up in future.