What are they for you?
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So what other red flagish types of things did some of you look for?
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Probably he wasn't too close to his parents. Dont ask him stuff he doesn't' want to answer!
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How does it help you to know how his parents met?
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how is that a red flag ? and why would it be ? lol
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A guy not wanting to discuss personal details about his DEAD mother and father with a girl he barely knows is a red flag for you?! 
You really don’t understand the possible emotional reasons he may not want to talk about his dead parents?
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I don’t even like to talk to my husband of 16 years about my parents’ deaths aur yahaan you’re finding red flags in a stranger’s reticence?
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You insist on being answered on such silly questions of yours by someone new you have met which might be sensitive to their feelings? no wonder you feel no "connection" (whatever that means).
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He is playing the hard-to-get. You must try the harder.
:p
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Also don't ask him if he likes to eat clam pizza.
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Forget about the parents question. What are some red flags or things we need to watch out for?
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no friends. that's a big red flag.
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no friends. that's a big red flag.
Why is that a red flag ?
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Red flags:
- paints his nails
- has more makeup on than you do
- knows the correct year and designer of your purse
- has no pulse
- will only meet you after dark and has a strange phobia of garlic
- sends in a pic to show how well-endowed he is during the rishta process
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- doesn't respect her parents - if she can't respect hers, there is no way she will respect mine
- its hard to make her smile
- she doesn't know how to make jokes :@
- has more information about fashion stuff and less focus on her future goals, eeducation etc
- can't carry a conversation
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I've always heard that you should be wary of the rishta that rushes a shadi and the one that is wishy-washy...as they are two extremes.
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no friends. that's a big red flag.
This one wins Oscar nomination!
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People that probe into your personal life and affairs too soon and insist its a red flag if you don't give into their demands.
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The no friends is a red flag.
Have a friend whose husband has no friends and he demands her attention 24 hours a day. Even when away, he constantly skypes her. Doesn't let her go out. Etc
This was a rushed marriage so didn't know much about him.
I don't talk to my husband about his father or how he died, it's a very sensitive subject. All I know is what I've heard from his family.
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Red flags
1. If he is probing too much about your earnings/savings etc.
2. If he is uncomfortable with the idea of you spending time or hanging around with your friends
3. If he asks too much details about your family affairs
4. If he often gives you examples of how much so and so give to their daughter on her wedding
5. If he make lame excuses of not introducing you to his family
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I think that overall and in and of themselves, the questions aren't rude. It's just that they will appear invasive if the other person is a stranger or at best just an acquaintance. These are questions that one might discuss more easily after a bond has been developed. But there isn't anything red flaggish about something that's not likely to have any bearing on your life if you were to marry him. Now if he's being secretive about things like his profession, his resident status...those are more like red flags.