Re: Red Flags
actually jokes aside one of my friends found out her bf had another gf on the side because she found his twitter profile...whereas he had claimed he wasnt on any social networking sites...
Re: Red Flags
An arrogant personality.
This guy I was talking to kept mentioning how he was "basically an heiress" (can I just laugh at the fact that he called himself an HEIRESS instead of an HEIR!?!) and that he didn't understand why another girl's dad had been concerned that he didn't have a job...yeah...turn off and red flag for sure. I think he wanted to sit at his dad's business and leech off of them forever. And the mom was very "mein aisi hoon, meri family aisi hain." mein mein mein. That's all she talked about.
When they keep hiding their beta jee.
Same guy's family was told that my dad and mom wanted to take the guy to dinner and tlak with him and he mysteriously ...didnt show up. no phone call, no nothing. no explanation. The mommy did the talking for him. and the entire family.
When we meet people socially, its not a big deal if someone lies about who they are...yeah its bad but people don't get tooo upset about it.
When it comes to marriage, its all different. No one owes anyone anything. So mine are:
Not being forthcoming or honest about who or what they are. Pushing for a commitment way too fast and only on their terms. Dictating the process without having any consideration for the other party. Being too traditional...i.e. "larki walay zyada zor se nahin boltay" and blah blah blah. If you ever run across anyone who says that, you need to run for your life. The "hum bohot saaf dil log" hein which is an excuse to be rude.
IMHO, things will never be perfect between two families but do NOT ignore things thinking "abhi baat bohot nayi nayi hai...baad mein samjha dengay"
Baad mein vo nahin samajhte hein...apko samjhatay hein. ;)
I have a general rule where I don't trust people that say things like "I'm really trustworthy." "You can trust me" because they are SUPER SKETCH usually. Same guy (yeah, that guy was CLEARLY a keeper)'s family would always tell us how they were shareef and how everyone idolized their son. The dad emailed me a few times (I talked about it in the other posts) about how he's "always going to be honest" with me and everyone. and how they could be trusted and we have their word that i woudl be allowed to go to school...
Every red flag was present in them now that i think about it. God save everyone from disgusting, shady, horrible people like that.
Re: Red Flags
Cigarette burns, tramp stamps