Asking someone how much money they earn doesnât really indicate financial stability. Also I have no reason to see why a marriage would break due to financial reasons if both parties were fulfilling their respective roles islamically.
Also itâs not ego to not want to disclose you financial information to complete strangers, or even your in laws to be.
It probably the same groups of people into those money centric marriages with unnecessarily large mahrs and dowries etc. (other things we have zero interest in)
True on your first point, I guess you would want to know if someone can provide basic necessities however this is subjective as you mentioned.
Personally Money has never been brought up in any of my experiences (apart from this one) in such a direct fashion. In fact Iâve generally not been asked any questions in such detail.
Iâve been asked about education, hobbies, about my previous marriage, a little bit about work interests (what I sell, where I sell it,) and things like that. (this is the UK too donât forget where this question isnât ideal)
Another thing is, I donât tend to brag. One rishta I went to see, their son also happened to run a business in a similar field to mine, however my dad happened to ask him what he does, cue 10 minute bragging session about how heâs got years of experience doing it and all sorts of other things. I tend to be very much the opposite as I have a different character.
I tend to appreciate things/people for what/who they are, heck some people LOL when I tell them my favourite things such as car. I have a friend that has his standard, if anythingâs not to his standard he will turn his nose at it and walk away, be it car, food, people whatever.
I think thatâs pretty sad personally.
Iâm not a big fan at all of the arranged marriage process. That being said - I would think you would want to know everything about the person you marry, including salary to have realistic expectations of them and the marriage. Itâs too personal a question to ask without meting someone / at first meeting perhaps but certainly once deciding on someone, I donât see why it shouldnât be asked.
A lot of marriages do fail over financial reasons. You want to make sure both parties are on the same page when it comes to money, how much is needed and how it affects happiness / lifestyle.
