Red Flag?

[yoda121]

Re: Red Flag?

@Reha

My parents asked for salaries…none of my BILs at the time made anything close to what they make right now at the time of marriage. One of them didn’t even own a car.

Its about honesty, being forthcoming about yourself and responsibility.

No one in this day and age, living in a western country is expecting you to provide a chauffeur and shopping sprees. Its a very naive way to think if that’s what you believe. Most women work and are quite capable of providing for themselves…they don’t need you.

However, that does not exempt you from your basic responsibilities in this process and in your marriage. It is what it is…why would you get all huffy about it like you’re too high and mighty to do that? You aren’t.

How old are you?

Really? How many times have you seen marriages break because the husband’s income took a nose dive? And how many marriages have you seen break because the wife couldn’t have kids?

Bad example.

About the rest…you buying it or not doesn’t matter at all. This is how it works…with or without you. If you don’t like it, drop the idea of an arranged marriage. Find someone to fall in “lowe” with your “inner beauty” and call it a day.

And by the way…even if she was marrying you for financial security…how is that any different from you marrying her based on her looks?

Why are you allowed to judge a book by its cover and not her?

You want to marry a pretty woman…she wants to marry a secure man.

What’s the issue?

I think you’re getting a bit high horse about womens’ independence. I’ve never once even hinted about shunning responsibilities, however gathering interest based on your income means there is the potential to lose interest based on lack of income. Read the thread if you want to know my age.

There was a thread on here the other week about a woman whose husband took on a different job and she hinted at divorce, personally I haven’t sat and analysed different marraiges.

When have I ever said about marrying a pretty person? Some serious assumptions going on here. I’m starting to wonder if you’ve actually read the thread.