Red Flag?

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Re: Red Flag?

@yoda121

I don’t mind the other question, just trying to dig out my finances, as a first question, is pretty pathetic, I’ve got nothing to prove.

I guess it’s just the way you’ve been brought up at the end of the day, I know of some people that are constantly maintaining an image and need to prove to themselves and others that they are able to maintain this image, must be a similar bunch.

@inspiron

Yoda - you are making the mistake that all guys in this process make - they forget this is about marriage and someone giving their daughter to you.

They dont give a flying monkeys bottom whether you like football and cricket.

I know this strikes a chord with most desi guys that are new to the process (same thing happened to the guy I spoke about and he decided to vanish) but you have to understand that it’s someone giving you their daughter.

The salary thing may seem rude to ask upfront but it’s just a way for parents to feel more secure about the choice. I think all parents understand that money comes and goes but they probably want to know that their daughter isn’t going to be suddenly responsible for providing for you and your entire family (seems ridiculous, but I’ve seen it happen). even more so, in my case, my parents were curious about salary for 2 reasons: 1) guys tend to be insecure about making less than their spouses so my parents just wanted to make sure there wasn’t a HUGE disparity (esp since said guy had no job atm) 2) to make sure that the guy would be able to financially provide the best he could and HIS parents AND/OR MY parents weren’t suddently going to be responsible for paying for rent/utilities/apartment/etc etc for their child + spouse. Selfish? maybe, but that’s what it is.

I don’t think they’re doing it to gold-dig. Parents want to make sure their daughters are going to be taken care of. If you hvae such an issue with their thinking NOW, I would back out because chances are you’re going to have issues with a lot of their reasoning.