Just to Clarify, those questions are THE FIRST communication I’ve had from these people!
You can guess the standard of living you’re used to surely? My dad drives a 16 year old car, but that does in no way indicate what he has/earns.
True, this is the thing, you can’t judge much from a persons salary surely, sometimes lifestyles are designed around your salary, I remember an interview on the Radio with Chris Moyles, he was on something like £10,000 a month however he wasn’t paid for a few months due to an admin error and he got annoyed, some people commented that surely if you’re earning £10k a month, a couple of months isn’t going to kill you, however his lifestyle will be designed to revolve around earning that amount, so he will probbably have much larger outgoings than most people. So it’s all relative.
This was their first ever communication with me, hence the massive red flags (for me)
See above.
This is true, but asking the question (to me it reads “how much do they make”) before even asking if they’re married, where they live or about their families or anything seems weird to me.
To me it just indicates a sign of the times, money before all else.
2 Good ways to put this are as follows.
I’d rather be crying in the back of a BMW than laughing on the back of a bike (Chinese TV reality show)
Eating Dall with people you love tastes much nicer than haute cuisine with people you hate.
I’m not materialistic on any level, probably because I’ve had material things and understand that their real value is actually… zero.