Recommending Rishtas

[Maham]

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@NomiCA

for that i have to go through the ‘relationship’ and ‘exploration’ like GF/BF thing again n again to find that person.. right??

or…if i am ready to extend my family …doesn’t that mean you have failed at finding the ‘one’??

1. I dont think that you have to go thru many relationships to fine the “One”, maybe in some cases but not all i suppose.

2. I don’t think its at all result of failure at finding the “One” that you want to extend your family. Hopefuly you see something in the potential prospect makes you see your spending rest of your life with them and extending your family with them. Atleast that’s how i see it.

[NomiCA]

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@Maham

1. I dont think that you have to go thru many relationships to fine the “One”, maybe **in some cases but not all i suppose. **

So you agree we have to have some GF/BF relationship sort of thing to find?

umm…so you think the ‘one’ can be found just in ..lets say..3 tries?? do you think thats like possible??

@Maham

2. I don’t think its at all result of failure at finding the “One” that you want to extend your family. Hopefuly you see something in the potential prospect makes you see your spending rest of your life with them and extending your family with them. Atleast that’s how i see it.

i thought you mentioned the terms as mutually exclusive…

[Maham]

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@NomiCA

So you agree we have to have some GF/BF relationship sort of thing to find?

umm…so you think the ‘one’ can be found just in ..lets say..3 tries?? do you think thats like possible??

i thought you mentioned the terms as mutually exclusive…

1. I don’t have any experience so i don’t know. But I think even at first attempt you can find the “one” if you are not an impulsive person (ofcourse lucky 2). I think those who don’t think and just jump into relationships, they are the ones who get that very fastly get disappointed too. So its always better to anaylse yours and the others standing before making a commitement.

2. When and where did i? pls quote me n i shall be able to reply to this accusation :D.

[NomiCA]

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@Maham

1. I don’t have any experience so i don’t know. But I think even at first attempt you can find the “one” if you are not an impulsive person (ofcourse lucky 2). I think those who don’t think and just jump into relationships, they are the ones who get that very fastly get disappointed too. So its always better to anaylse yours and the others standing before making a commitement.

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you don’t have experience ,you don’t know…and you think that ‘one’ can be found in first attempt??
by attempt i meant considering the person for relationship..not entering into one…

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@Maham

2. When and where did i? pls quote me n i shall be able to reply to this accusation :D.

Nevermind…i misunderstood your post..thats why i said it…

[Hadeel]

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@T1000

so there is another one in the same boat .. thank God, I am not the only one

I am guessing that u r a guy, i never thought guys could be blackmailed too by their mothers

[Maham]

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@NomiCA

you don’t have experience ,you don’t know…and you think that ‘one’ can be found in first attempt??
by attempt i meant considering the person for relationship..not entering into one…

Sure, why not Our parents and grandparents and great grandparents married this same way and infact had much better lives then what most of us are having or will have :p.

[sheyn]

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@Maham

Sure, why not Our parents and grandparents and great grandparents married this same way and infact had much better lives then what most of us are having or will have :p.

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Cause they din’t set the sort of unrealistic expectations of each other that we do now and a husband and wife’s role was very well defined and adhered to !

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[Maham]

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@sheyn

Cause they din’t set the sort of unrealistic expectations of each other that we do now and a husband and wife’s role was very well defined and adhered to !

True. Basically life was not as complex as it has become now at all levels.

[T1000]

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anyone can be emotionally blackmailed .. .. its not a big deal

@Hadeel

I am guessing that u r a guy, i never thought guys could be blackmailed too by their mothers

[NomiCA]

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@Maham

Sure, why not Our parents and grandparents and great grandparents married this same way and infact had much better lives then what most of us are having or will have :p.

That is not finding ‘the one’…that is whatever you get…try to make it work as if its the ‘one’…

[rolla_coaster]

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je i do it all the time:sheen: bas kisi tarha saray singles ke shadi ho jaye.Suwaab ka kaam hai yeh

[Maham]

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@NomiCA

That is not finding ‘the one’…that is whatever you get…try to make it work as if its the ‘one’…

That’s your way of looking at it.

I think dating and living together are two different things. So you may date 4-5 people n think the 5th is your soulmate yet once you get married that may not be the case. Same way even in arrange marriage same can happen but there are cases where you are lucky to be married to someone who is the “one” for you. That is what i was trying to say earlier on.

[NomiCA]

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@Maham

That’s your way of looking at it.

I think dating and living together are two different things. So you may date 4-5 people n think the 5th is your soulmate yet once you get married that may not be the case. Same way even in arrange marriage same can happen but there are cases where you are lucky to be married to someone who is the “one” for you. That is what i was trying to say earlier on.

ok…so basically its all about luck isn’t it?? you can’t do anything about it…

[Maham]

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@NomiCA

ok…so basically its all about luck isn’t it?? you can’t do anything about it…

Well one has to be cautious and careful at making their selection but at the end of the day i think what has to happen will happen. So definately luck has a huge role to play.