Reasons to reject a potential rishta?

[Deeba1234]

Re: Reasons to reject a potential rishta?

Was it not mentioned before the meeting that the girl wore hijab??

I can imagine it being a dealbreaker for a lot of liberal guys just as no hijab could be for those men who are more practising.

Compatibility should be the main criteria.. Going into marriage with the intention of changing your partner (even if you think its for their own good) is just asking for trouble (and quite arrogant)

There isn't a shortage of ppl out there so why go for someone you might end up in conflict with anyway?

[Sweetmoi]

Re: Reasons to reject a potential rishta?

@Xtron

han tu marzee hai tumhari..i am flexible. Not rigid for sure. Ab batao..kab aoon..Ammi ko le ker. :D

Someone told me Shaitan is locked up in ramzaan.. kissi ne bataya nahin GS pe khula hua hai instead :D

[Captain_Obvious]

Re: Reasons to reject a potential rishta?

@TLK

I have seen guys getting rejected because they have beard. It's the same thing

And I've also known of guys who've rejected the rishtas because the girl/her family wanted him to shave.

[Aukhan]

Re: Reasons to reject a potential rishta?

Nope that's the last of my concern.

[Xtron]

Re: Reasons to reject a potential rishta?

@Sweetmoi

Someone told me Shaitan is locked up in ramzaan.. kissi ne bataya nahin GS pe khula hua hai instead :D

I know you're trying very hard ..but it is not working. I am being a gentleman so far. Let me know..ammi ko kab laon?

[Huma_1]

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@MM

^ Never miss a chance, eh?

I just wanna clear up.. My friend (the hijabi) didn’t reject the rishta. She was ‘rejected’ because she is a hijabi and the guy’s side didn’t want to ask her to take off the hijab.
Nice of them, huh?

Khair… Everyone has made valid points… but here’s my question.

Aside from wanting to “modern” or meld into society (out of Pak or other Muslim countries), why would a hijabi girl be frowned upon? Sure maybe you’re not as religious… but you’re still muslim, right? In Islam, every girl is supposed to be covered and dress in a modest manner. So why would someone who is following her religion and doing the right thing be in the wrong?

I get that it’s assumed that she’d try and change you, blah blah blah… but what would she be doing wrong? Nagging, yea that’s wrong. But she’d just want her husband to practice his religion, no?

But at the same time, just as some girls said “I wouldnt wear hijab cuz someone else asked me to because I wouldn’t be doing it 'from the heart”, I guess asking someone to pray wouldn’t be them praying “from the heart”.

Just random thoughts/ questions/ blabber.

I saw the drama called “Mein Abdul Qadir Hoon” because it was recommended by a lot of GS members. You know how in that drama when the male protagonist changes his lifestyle according to Islam and starts following the sunnah way of dressing, keeps a beard etc, and his family and friends totally freak out. Words like extremism were used when in fact he wasn’t doing anything extreme. I think this is exactly how some people perceive hijabis too. Who cares, I say. Isn’t it better for your friend that she didn’t get married to someone who isn’t on the same page as her regarding religion? I wouldn’t take offense to this. I’d only be upset if I was rejected at a job interview for this reason, not some rishta. Ask your friend not to be upset about this. Allah ki marzi nahin thi. Is mein bhi koi maslehat hogi. InshaAllah she’ll find a much more suitable match.