The questions I’m asking are more focused towards guys, single AND married, because I’m curious.
But, ladies, feel free to throw your input in 
Would you reject a potential rishta (only) because she wore a hijab?
If yes, why?
If not, why do you think someone would?
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My brother did - he said he has nothing against the hijab but it just shows that they were on two different levels.
And he wanted someone who was more on the same page.
being honest - no tamatars please
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i would reject a girl who is NOT old fashioned...meaning respect of elders, ability to deal with inlaws, happy to live within the means, not too much interested in Gold/Jewelry etc.
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^ and yet, you're gonna fall for some bholi bhali see that will rear her real personality after marriage. Then you'll be making trips to get gold REGULARLY with her. iA.
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No tamatars at all! All I’m looking for is honest answers
That’s all fine and dandy, KKF, but none of that has anything to do with what I asked 
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Hijaab is a PLUS for me...i wouldn't ask her to wear Hijaab but if she wants to, it would be a blessing in disguise. :)
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I wouldn't reject her, but I think she would reject me lol. I'm not the most devout guy, even though my lifestyle is more Islamic (sans perhaps, rituals) than most guys. That's a deal breaker for some people.
So I may reject her if I felt that she would have a problem with me later on. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm assuming that someone who wears a hijab is fairly religious, so we may not mesh will in that regard.
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^ and yet, you're gonna fall for some bholi bhali see that will rear her real personality after marriage. Then you'll be making trips to get gold REGULARLY with her. iA.
lolz...well, if she spends her own money, no problemo!
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I wouldn't reject her, but I think she would reject me lol. I'm not the most devout guy, even though my lifestyle is more Islamic (sans perhaps, rituals) than most guys. That's a deal breaker for some people.
So I may reject her if I felt that she would have a problem with me later on. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm assuming that someone who wears a hijab is fairly religious, so we may not mesh will in that regard.
But if you are saying you are more islamic sans ritual, why would you reject a more islamic girl (taking your assumption into account that hijab means faily religious)
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I wouldn't over a hijab. That would be a plus for me. As for those who would, I would assume it would be because of a perceived lack of compatibility.
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My brother did - he said he has nothing against the hijab but it just shows that they were on two different levels. And he wanted someone who was more on the same page.
being honest - no tamatars please
Does this equate rejecting a guy because he has a beard? (The Shariah one, not the fancy ones)
Because I rejected a guy's proposal who had a Shariah beard for the exact same reasons. I felt that there will always be a conflict on the interpretation of certain Islamic issues.
no tamatars here either please
A friend of mine got rejected because she wore a hijab and she didn't have any hard feelings about it. The guy's family wasn't sure if they were religious enough to bring home a hijabi bride for their son, who wasn't religious enough either.
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But if you are saying you are more islamic sans ritual, why would you reject a more islamic girl (taking your assumption into account that hijab means faily religious)
Even if she is okay with me not praying regularly etc, what if she changes her mind later on? This could cause huge issues. So while I have no problem with someone being fairly religious, in fact I prefer it as long as she is also open minded, I wonder if someone like that would be okay if I didn't become more religious later on. Even if I did, what if my views still bother her?
So even if she was okay with me, I may reject her if I think she is underestimating our differences.
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Good point! 
This is the reason I started this thread
However, my friend and her family are heart broken that the rishta was pretty much a done deal and all of the sudden they said no because the girl wore hijab.
I couldn’t wrap my head around it. But after reading some of the replies (so far)… I think I get it now.
Do I agree? That’s a different story 
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I know guys who would. I also know girls who would reject a guy with a beard.
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However, my friend and her family are heart broken that the rishta was pretty much a done deal and all of the sudden they said no because the girl wore hijab. I couldn't wrap my head around it. But after reading some of the replies (so far)... I think I get it now.
Do I agree? That's a different story :p
I can say I understand why they would be heart broken but at least this prospect guy and his family were up front and honest. I really hope and pray that your friend finds someone who accepts her entirely, with her hijab and is actually proud of her hijab.
I know of someone who got a rishta and both started talking to get to know each other. And while trying to know her better (hijabi girl), the prospect guy would send (email) his interpretations on why she doesn't necessarily has to wear a hijab. Obviously she was quite upset because this guy might like her or whatever, but was trying to make her give up one thing that means so much to her and is a part of her identity.
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In a little more time, the real question would be "Will you men reject a woman who wears a little too many pieces of clothing?" - sayeen rolla's predictions.
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I have rejected guys who want the wife to wear hijab after getting married. I felt if I was forced to do it, I won't be sincere about it.
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i would reject a girl who is NOT old fashioned...meaning respect of elders, ability to deal with inlaws, happy to live within the means, not too much interested in Gold/Jewelry etc.
this is not old fashioned. :)
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I rejected few proposals who wanted me to wear hijab after getting married. not that i am against hijab or anything but i want to practice it when it comes from within and not by force.
i rejected one proposal on the pretext that they were greatly into nazar niyaaz and my family and i am not. it was even fine with me if they were not that rigid but they made it clear that if i marry into their family then i have to get involved into nazar niyaaz and must do it, this was something serious to me so i rejected because i couldn't do something in the name of religion which in my view is wrong. that proposal was very good otherwise and people told me and my family that we were fools to refuse it but we were satisfied with our decision.
it is perfectly fine for both guys and girls to refuse potential proposals if there is a difference between them regarding religious rituals.
Reasons to reject a potential rishta?
I've heard of hijaab rejections but never for the reason of Nazar and niyyaz. We have them all the time and I hardly even notice it, kind of how namaz is read. Wakht aaya, parleys and go on about your day? No?
As for the ops question. I can understand why a family would feel insulted with a rejection because of Hijaab but its not surprising that they wouldn't feel comfortable bringing a more conservative DIL into the mix if they feel she might be the odd one out. I think hijab is automatically associated with the impression that the girl must be uber religious. I'm not sure how true it is but my guy cousins also prefer non hijab because that's not an expectation or common thing in my fam. We are not exactly modern but not completely conservative either and none of the girls on my family wear hijab. Unless my cousins choose a hiajbi girl themselves I don't see my family specifically looking for one either. However my family looks at the mental match first before it comes to how religious one. One if my cousins doesn't care so his family have talked to hijabi girls but it has turned out they are way more conservative and the girls are not willing to talk and do the getting to know first Meets and stuff. None of my cousins want to marry without actually talking and spending some kind of time with the other person to know if its a match.
Has anyone ever been asked to remove their hijab after marriage? Curious,.