I believe there is a clear difference between parents willingly and happily giving some presents to their daughter, and the cultural and social obligation to drain every last drop of blood out of your body and present it to the maharaaj who is blessing the family with his willingness to marry their daughter.
There are certain bollocks ideas we have adopted from the mixed culture of the subcontinent. The modern concept of jahez comes under the same league. Bride’s parents are expected, and in often cases demanded to give certain ‘presents’ to their daughter. There should be no such implied obligations associated with marriage. And when people pull out their beards and turbans to justify these sick practices in the light of islam, it is disgusting. If the maharaj doesn’t afford a fridge, tv, bed, furniture and paanday, the butthead should reconsider the idea of getting married.