How many of you married women READ your Nikkah Nama before signing it?
Do you know what rights you forfeited when signing? I didn’t know this, but a boy’s family sometimes will make ammendments which will forfeit a pre-ordained Islamic right and girls sign off their nikkah nama without reading what Islamic rights they gave up.
Not sure how true this is. I’ve never actually seen or read a real nikkah document.
And gentlemen, did you take back any rights your wife had by adding ammendments or checking off no to certain rights on the nikkah?
Was the mehr something agreed upon, or some number out there that no one told you about, and maybe you still don’t even know about now? How was the mehr decided upon?
Mine was in Urdu and in Pakistan, and I’m sure I signed away all sorts of ridiculous rights (it was the standard one they use there). I don’t know why I didn’t insist more on knowing it and amending it, since it’s one of the most important documents I’ll ever sign. Our wedding was the last in a long line of weddings and several immediate family members were very ill. I guess I was just making the least fuss possible. I was ready to be married.
And my husband knows better than to pull any crap with me.
This is on my "shaadi prep list" ...... along with picking out my wedding dress and finding a caterer... I also have noted that this is something that has to be done no matter what. And that well before Nikkah actually happens, my parents need to discuss the contents of my Nikkah Nama in detail with my inlaws.
I have heard too many stories about exactly what you have written PCG - boys family making amendments to it which forfeights pre-ordained islamic rights ... and girl just signs it without even truly knowing what she is signing (except that it she is now officially married).
Nikkah Nama is a marriage contract..... and just like any other contract in the world..... before one gets into one- it should be discussed and read before signed.
My fiance and I are taking it another step further and also going to have a pre-nup made. A lot of people are prob going to hate on me for this and probably will find this morbid but whatever... I have worked in divorce law for a year...... and have my reasons for getting one made. Although no one thinks about it like this - there is a sense of security in the marriage when you know a document exists out there that will not allow either person in the marriage to screw the other one if god forbid things go wrong. What guy isn't going to appreciate that you are not going to turn out to be some ***** that is going to threaten to take you to the cleaners anytime a rift occurs?? Also vice versa.
How many of you married women READ your Nikkah Nama before signing it?
Do you know what rights you forfeited when signing? I didn't know this, but a boy's family sometimes will make ammendments which will forfeit a pre-ordained Islamic right and girls sign off their nikkah nama without reading what Islamic rights they gave up.
Not sure how true this is. I've never actually seen or read a real nikkah document.
And gentlemen, did you take back any rights your wife had by adding ammendments or checking off no to certain rights on the nikkah?
Was the mehr something agreed upon, or some number out there that no one told you about, and maybe you still don't even know about now? How was the mehr decided upon?
Yes my "wakeel" read out the entire document to me. We didn't change anything. They also presented the proposed mehr to me...I said it was too much...they said it was for my security...I said OK and ta da.
Islamically, there isn’t really much on jahez. Mehr she gets because he can divorce her in a minute…if she takes khula, she doesn’t get that.
Waisey, grown up men shouldn’t be asking for anything. Bohot buri baath hai :nono: They should be able to afford a basic home when they are ready for marriage.
If the dude and his family are sleazy enough to pull...whatever....chances are they wont care to begin with whether thats a right on your nikkahnama or not.
My Nikkah document was read out to me, but honestly, it went through one ear and out the other…my mind was somewhere else and i felt like i wasn’t even in the room. I totally zoned out.
I don’t think anything in it was changed. I didn’t want the mehr (property) as i thought it was too much and unnecessary, and that resulted in a heated debate, but then i was told it’s mandatory and for my security, so just to get the whole thing over with, i accepted it.
Mr Maroush can’t pull the wool over my eyes. He daren’t.
but on a serious note, I am curious about haq mehr. how does it make sense? why does the girl get it? what is so special about the girl? aren’t we equals now?
if he can divorce her, she can get khulla as well. if she gets khula, does the guy get haq mehr? no. why not?
OK, divorce that the guy gives takes a few seconds…the khula is a loooooooooooooooooong process. A girl can’t just utter those 3 words.
Now most women may not be financially independent so if the guy divorces such a woman, she would need some $$ to start her life out…perhaps that’s why?
anyone who makes the decision to divorce someone or acts on that decision in a matter of seconds has mental problems.
why would the girl need dollars. why doesn’t she work? why doesn’t she save? why won’t she get 50% of the couple’s assets?
the last part I’m not sure I care for. sorry don’t mean to be an ass (though I’m sure I’m coming across as one). but the more I think about it, the less sense this haq mehr thing makes to me.
