muspus
March 2, 2010, 12:34am
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This is on my “shaadi prep list” … along with picking out my wedding dress and finding a caterer… I also have noted that this is something that has to be done no matter what. And that well before Nikkah actually happens, my parents need to discuss the contents of my Nikkah Nama in detail with my inlaws.
I have heard too many stories about exactly what you have written PCG - boys family making amendments to it which forfeights pre-ordained islamic rights … and girl just signs it without even truly knowing what she is signing (except that it she is now officially married).
Nikkah Nama is a marriage contract… and just like any other contract in the world… before one gets into one- it should be discussed and read before signed.
My fiance and I are taking it another step further and also going to have a pre-nup made. A lot of people are prob going to hate on me for this and probably will find this morbid but whatever… I have worked in divorce law for a year… and have my reasons for getting one made. Although no one thinks about it like this - there is a sense of security in the marriage when you know a document exists out there that will not allow either person in the marriage to screw the other one if god forbid things go wrong. What guy isn’t going to appreciate that you are not going to turn out to be some ***** that is going to threaten to take you to the cleaners anytime a rift occurs?? Also vice versa.
This is just me though.
The authentic (read: non-tampered with) nikkah contract works as a pre-nup too. Refer to Islam rulings on divorce- the man has responsibilities for his ex-wife (especially in the case of children) too, ensuring she is provided for. Not that I’m an expert or anything…