Re: Re-marrying
^D-O-S I don't think that she needs to wait for a certain period of time to get khula (I'll check with a scholar or a pro Islami shariya law person-but u've to wait a millennia before I get back to u on that). I think the reason why such a period is appointed is to see if the married woman is expecting a child from that husband...since one can't be divorced in such a state...hence they have this waiting period...God I'm so not sure about it. Give me some time. But regardless, she has all rights for filing a divorce if not expecting (which i know she isn't) besides the dude has been gone missing for too long anyway.
Ok my main reason for replying is in regards to this....
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but he still gives her more attention than she actually wants... He gives her no space you know... so that actually ticks her off... Instead of making her smile, he makes her even more sad sometimes by saying the wrong things... as he thinks in a kind of ego-centric way
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Remember Remember...if anyone makes u feel like this before marriage or commitment, they will get only worse afterwards. When the part of vows says, 'for better or for worse' its actually 'for worse' on most occassions while getting into a marriage contract. If one may be comfortable with a sane stable head with the 'worse' part of the better half, then u're ok. But if its what u've described above, trust me trust me...it only deteriorate and the relationship only rots furthers. I would strongly recommend that she does not even comes in contact with this new character. He can be emotionally blackmailing her, but she should not fall into it. It only gets more abusive later on.
If she wants to spend time with her mother, she should do so. She should give her self enough space to recollect what she has lost during those miserable years. One really really need alot of room to breath freely and put past behind them. I know its a painful process and its very hard but its important to let time heal the soul after suffering such horrible things. All this takes considerable amount of time. Although its vital that she remedies her broken heart and tends the wounds fully before she can come in terms to let herself to trust again. Insha Allah!