Re: Re-marrying
Okay as some people are wondering how this guy could just walk away so suddenly.. so let me put some light on it...
She was a 17-year old girl when her father died in an accident. Her dad had been looking for a rishta, and everyone knew these people who were interested in the girl. Her mum and dad had talked to them, but if I'm not wrong.. they had not given an answer yet. So when her dad died, those people took advantage of the opportunity and got that girl married with their son. She was 17 and he was 25... She didn't like him that much, but okay... she learned to love him. She just married him, because of her mother... and even stopped with her study. Later on she got to know that her in-laws had lied to her mother just to get their son married with her. Well, the girl was living abroad, so it took about a year I think to get him over. Meanwhile.. they talked a lot to eachother on the phone, wrote e-mails, letters, cards... everything. You'd believe that it was just a perfect distance relationship. But when the guy came over, he completely changed. He used to hit her all the time, got angry on every little thing, if she said something he would hit her and if she wouldn't then again he would do the same. The typical pakistani mind which leaves no space for the woman.
She became pregnant once, but instead of being happy the guy hit her this much that the child died before it could see this world. Then there was a time that he got used to the free environment of Europe, and didn't came home too much. Remember, she had been working for their living.. and he would just misuse the money.
Her dad had left a quite big home, a car and some money for her. He already got the citizenship... and he wanted to get her property as well, but in this matter she didn't let it come so far and called the police when he started about it. He had become so scared that he hardly came home now, and slowly got all his own stuff shifted.. And one day when she was at work, he just left without saying a word. After that.. he did call a few times, just to threaten her.. but I guess, she had become a big girl. Learned how to take care of herself in this big world... and now, it has almost been a year that he called... and she has a wonderful job.. plus she started her study again.
And now.. there is this guy who is serious for marriage... She is still confused, doesn't know what to do.. she told him the whole story, and yet he is willing to marry her and giving her the smiles she deserves. She does like him, but just as a friend.. She says she doesn't love him, but I think she's just scared of getting into a relationship... still hurt by what her husband did to her.
*She does not know about his whereabouts so according to what Shak kills said, khula won't be possible. So there's a possibility to get the nikaah nulified, right? Someone who could enlighten this a little bit more...? *