Rape and marriage

[sooraj-mukhi]

Re: Rape and marriage

@desidudecool

technically no in Islam.But our girls who are not very sexually active before marriage or sensual do feel very uncomfortable about sex.The smart thing to do: don’t get married to someone you are not physcially attracted to.

Not too many girls in India or Pakistan have the liberty to do that. As it is the ratio of good rishtas is like one prospect groom for 10 eligable brides. And i have heard this way too many times by the elders there ’ Tum kaun si hoor pari ho jo looks par larkay ko refuse kar rahi ho?’ Its painful but it seems that they totally ignore the fact that for a lot of people its tough to indulge in a physical relationship with a partner who is just not attractive to them.

[nia_khan]

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@shobig

u from south india ?

okayi been mistaken for being saudi but south indian…

first why would you say that.. secondly as you can see from my name i am Khan meaning pathan - i dont think there are pathans who are living in india

plus i am also punjabi mutyyaar :~)

[sooraj-mukhi]

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Nia- Salman Khan, Amir Khan, Arbaz Khan, Farid Khan ;) All indians you know. DOnt have to be pathan to be a khan there :D

[MYwish]

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Yes, I belive there is rape in marriage.

[aaaishaaa]

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This is a very disturbing topic.

But it is absolutely against the characteristics and beautiful way of islam. No women should be put in a position to accept this - according to shariah law. Every female is to be treated dignity and respect, its like a forced marriage where the girl accepts to marry someone due to parental and family pressure - that is not considered as giving her consent and therefore its like she is living with a male who she has no agreement with (even though people think everything is fine - even though she was pressurised) and living under the same roof and committing adultery for the rest of your life, and yet who gets the blame - parents. Allah tala knows best.

May Allah help and guide everyone

[desidudecool]

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I have heard these stories of pakistani women feeling raped by their husbands before.It comes down to them not being sensual enough...a lot of women in Pakistan think sex is sick and dirty.They need to change their mentality a little bit..that does'nt mean they should start acting like American girls and become sluts,but theres nothing wrong with sex,its an expression of love.When you are deeply in love with someone it happens very naturally and with a lot of intensity.I am speaking from experience:).

[mYsTeRiOuS_gUy]

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@Sara516

Karakhush and others, im not stereotyping guys, wow !! Im sorry but, u dont think calling a bunch of guys who’ve forced their wives to have sex sick and perverted is fair or nice? Psh

Captain lota, (bohot mubarak ho on ur shaadi and baccha (bacchay? ) i thot u knew me better htan to call me a psycho n accuse me of being an attention whore.. i shuda been clear but no i wasnt referring to the whole freakin nation when i said what i said..

I was referring to specific incidents in my mind when i posted this, i.e., the first few times when it hurts like hell and the guys (in those specific incidents) arent exactly understanding or kind and patient either.. and either htey really happened or the grls who told me were full of crap isnt really the point but it definitely is a problem and it definitely exists!

I think if a husband is being kind and respectful to his wife whos physically fine she shudnt be refusing him at all

Well you clearly said that Pakistani guys are really sick pigs, would you be offended if someone says “pakistani girls are jaahil bit**es”???

Girls are very much desperate when it comes to sex, it’s a different thing that they can neither express their desires nor can they force boys to have sex(unlike some JAAHIL MEN).
I am sick of these confused desi girls saying Pakistani boys are this and that…???Men of all backgrounds are equally desperate (not saying girls are too far behind them) and the only difference is that europeans OR non muslims will probably divorce their wives or go somewhere else for sex and SOME jaahil pakistani brathren will FORCE their wives or use violence to have sex.

And desi girls Stop acting like angels…

[armughal]

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stop fighting, i think enuff has been said in this thread....