Re: Rape and marriage
A man isn't allowed to do that to his wife. But very often the rules are misused in our culture, I'm not saying everyone does it, but a lot of people do misuse the fact that a wife shouldn't refuse her husband, or else angels will be cursing her or something, I forgot what the exact words were, anyway, if a wife does refuses without good reason, of course she's wrong.
But what about husbands who don't care about how the wife feels, you know, an ill wife, or a tired wife who didn't even get enough sleep with a baby that cries two three times a night, and then she has to wake up very early in the morning so she doesn't get a chance to get a proper amount of sleep... what I want to say is, it's unfair when husbands just do what they want even if it's damaging to the wife.
Just because a wife shouldn't say no, doesn't mean a husband can do what ever he wants and whenever he wants. A wife is a human being, even if she is home all day while the husband works, she has a lot of things to do and she NEVER has a day off, while the husband might be working during the week, but has at least one or two days a week when he has to do nothing at all.
Often when a wife will say no, the husband will still say, 'you were at home all day, how can you be tired?' Well, there are many reasons, crying babies at night so you never get enough sleep, very busy day with extra cleaning around the house or appointments for their child, an ill child can be very exhausting too and believe it or not, a wife who happens to be only human can become sick too.
So even though it is true that a wife shouldn't refuse her husband, it would be nice if the husband could consider what his wife wants and if she really is up to doing it.
I can't believe Allah has ordained women to suffer like that! He tells husbands to treat their wifes with RESPECT and KINDNESS. When a husband truly treats his wife with respect and kindness he wouldn't even think about forcing her when she truly isn't up to it.
) i thot u knew me better htan to call me a psycho n accuse me of being an attention whore.. i shuda been clear but no i wasnt referring to the whole freakin nation when i said what i said..