P.S: "My original post also had some compliments for @funguy which have also been removed by mods "
My question: How did everyone else spend their last Ramzan? I spent it in Islamabad. Went for Tarawih prayers for the first time in my life at some house in the neighbourhood arranged especially for females. Didnt realise had my feet nails were covered with paint. On the 9th-10th roza, some women there got paranoid over it and created quite a scene. Made the experience so bitter, didnt go again. I think satan made them stop me from tarawih.
Yeah maybe they were so harsh because I was a strange person to them. Like I did not introduce myself or anything. Just joined them and said I was new to the city. They might have reacted differently if they were some friends or acquaintance or something. So it's okay.
Lessons learned:
Do not ever go to tarawih with your nail paint on.
Do not join a religious gathering if you dont know anyone there.
Yeah maybe they were so harsh because I was a strange person to them. Like I did not introduce myself or anything. Just joined them and said I was new to the city. They might have reacted differently if they were some friends or acquaintance or something. So it's okay.
Lessons learned:
Do not ever go to tarawih with your nail paint on.
Do not join a religious gathering if you dont know anyone there.
Not sure about 2, but did you ask anyone knowledgeble if 1 is a valid lesson to learn? Its not so much tarawih or even prayers, as far as I know, it is the wudu that is incomplete because of paint. So everything else that has wudu as a requirement also becomes invalid. Am no expert in these matters, but do talk to someone knowledgeable about this instead of going by the ruckus caused by a random woman.
If the matter is not instantly changeable there is no way in hell I would interfere in someone's namaz. Even if they do something incorrectly their intentions matter. After the namaz I can broach the topic conversationally. It doesn't matter if the person is stranger or not the same courtesy should be given to everyone. People who didn't even speak the same language as me have corrected stuff in masjid nabwi but only after the Prayer was done.
If the matter is not instantly changeable there is no way in hell I would interfere in someone's namaz. Even if they do something incorrectly their intentions matter. After the namaz I can broach the topic conversationally. It doesn't matter if the person is stranger or not the same courtesy should be given to everyone. People who didn't even speak the same language as me have corrected stuff in masjid nabwi but only after the Prayer was done.
Couldn't agree more. Unfortunately for us, that woman is not in these forums.
It was not just one woman. There were atleast two who spoke about it quite harshly & one who was a bit rude. And the rest were just watching. Only one woman next to me was polite and tried to tell them to keep quite but they didn’t listen to her. about lesson 2, yes it has to do with Wuzu not Tarawih alone. But Tarawih is the only prayer which must be read in public. Other things which require Wuzu can be practiced at home by women.
Well they did it in the middle of the prayer. I think just before the last four units were started. They also objected to something else also in addition to the polish which I can’t recall now exactly what it was. All I remember now is that even though I did not allow myself to be discouraged by that bitter experience and still decided to go the next day, I couldn’t gather the courage to still go and have them object to something new. The problem was not why they objected but how they conveyed it to me. So just to avoid finding excuses for why I’m not ‘perfect’ like them, I thought it was best not to go. I don’t know of any mosque in Pakistan which has Tarawih arrangement for women.
P.S: “Sorry for inaccuracy in my post as it’s hard to be mistake free while typing through mob. Was just going to sleep but replying.”
While I think the whole nail polish issue should be well known by now, but still, there is a proper way to advise someone. You could tell them that Musa (AS) was better than them and Fir’aun was worse than you but Allah still commanded Musa (AS) to talk to Fir’aun nicely.
Yes am not bothered about it, just one regret that it was my wish to read complete tarawihs last year but couldnt. Maybe I was weak so satan got the upper hand.
Since I dont know who is better than Musa RA and worse than Firun, I wouldnt have been able to tell them that. I should have had you by my side, Im sure you could do it
Everyone else can continue the trend of the original thread started by funguy in 2004 :hayaa: (Ramzan-ul-mubarak FAQs). Come on shaabaash… :biggthumb:
Apparently I was performing the sajda hand movements all wrong. I was splaying my fingers too much. The lady next to me smiled and showed me how I should do it. I've also had someone tuck my hair in during tawaf from behind. I didn't realise my hair was longer than the hijab.
Now I also remember what the other things were that they had objection over.
My head scarf did not fully cover my hair
Daily, I used to take up a fixed spot. They said I must stand next to any taken space and not go to any other empty spot I like. They said Islamically that was incorrect. I changed my place immediately (This one was before the prayer started. The nail polish objection came just before ending the prayer).
I did that for convenience because I used to carry a large handbag which I used to put near the window besides the spot which I often took up. When I changed my place, there was no space to keep my large bag so kept it right in front of me where I was supposed to prostrate.
Oh, yes. We were corrected that we needed to stand shoulder shoulder by someone who once again did not speak the language. The lady just touched shoulders with my mother to indicate what we needed to do. We had never prayed in jamat so we did not know these things but no one was unkind about it.
you can perform taraweeh at home aswell…its like qayyam ul layl in my knowledge…I never go outside for performing it…infact i recite the Quran as much i have memorized even if its last three verses of any surah…rest…you may find worst than this…but continue doing good deed…even if people become test for you…Allah knows best!!
may ALLAH guide us and make our character good so we can call people to Islam kindly ameen
Walaikum Assalam. I did not know that. I always thought one has to finish reading the whole of Quran during tarawih prayers. So unless one has memorized it, how can it be done?
Walaikum Assalam. I did not know that. I always thought one has to finish reading the whole of Quran during tarawih prayers. So unless one has memorized it, how can it be done?
Like tahurra I read at home with the few surah i know. I never heard of it being an obligation to read the entire quran during taraveeh. God knows.
You both need to tell me how we can read 10 (Or is it 12) units of prayer daily only with few surahs from memory :bummer: Or let me run a search and find a nice link which explains that.
But that is new information and actually a very relieving one… that tarawih can be read independently at home too.
Well memorize the last 20 surahs, i pray twenty rakah and i just recite the quran which i have memorized Alhamdulilah
Like starting 10 verses of surah Al baqarah and then ayat ul kursi with two next ayat, like this and if you want easy so memorize the last twenty surahs and recite one in every rakah, rest Allah knows best. Yes ask others aswell, and convey that to us as well, may Allah gramt us benwficial knowledge and make us practicing Muslim Ameen
I pray twenty rakah. Memorize any 10 surah and you can repeat. Actually i think if you know even two surah besides fatiha, even that would do. It's better you ask a knowledgeable person though.
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