Re: Questions for working desi moms
kids that are being put in day care etc arn't being brought up properly? as in the islamic manners and reciting soorahs etc...<<<
Valid concern. Language may be an issue where the child going to day care might not pick up his parent's language as quickly/fluently as a child that stays home but as long as the parents make an effort, it doesn't become an issue in the long term. My daughter who is four knows Urdu better than my cousins who were raised here in the US and were home the first five years of their lives. She knows better than a couple that came here when they were 7~8 years old and have since forgotten or choose not to speak it. So it all depends on parents.
Most childcare facilities try to be secular but they do have Christmas, Easter stuff. As parents, you have to look at it from the perspective that you can't insulate your children for ever. As long as you have an Islamic culture at home, that's what they will identify with.
I mean the toddler years are the most innocent and amazing days of childs life.<<<
I totally agree. But you have to look at the bigger picture and weigh your pros and cons. If a mother has three kids three years apart and she stays home until the last one is in school, that's more than a dozen years she was out of the work force and while some professions might be kind to such absence, not all of them are. So you have to look at your finances, the kind of lives you want to live for yourself and for your children and then make a decision on your own.
Its not just black and white.