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*Originally posted by Baba G: *
these 'romantic' lists always come from 19 year old girls who have never even been in a relationship.. let alone marriage..
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Hhahahahh right there with you Baba G
*********Originally posted by Atlanta: *
A Few Rules for A Happy Marriage
2) Never both be angry at the same time.
Why not? if she thinks she is right, and I think I am right, why can't we stand by our position
exactly!
3) If you have to criticise, do it lovingly.
the purpose of criticizing is to make them see their mistake. Let them know loud and clear what they are doing wrong. No lovey dovey crap
4) Never bring up old mistakes.
Why not. If she is bombarding me with what I did, I should be able to point out similar crap she did before.
5) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
Again, If I am right, I ain't apologizing.
and for me...we've only done this once..sometimes what they did was so bad....I didn't WANT to make up that night....especially since the fight happened right b4 we were sleeping...sometimes it's better to step away and then talk about it more rather than drill it to death...and not really truly figure it out..
6) Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other.
We live in this dunya. It will be here long after us. Why ignore something so great.
Have a dunya outside your spouse...it keeps it very interesting...
7) Pray together at least once a day.
I am not very religious.
There isn't time!! what if he goes to work and comes back from work after you've gone to sleep???
8) Remember that behind every successful spouse is an exhausted partner.
Behind every successful person are many great people who are there to support and help them...
9) Remember it takes two to quarrel.
90% of the time, girls are to blame.
Ha!
11) At least once a day, say something kind or complimentary to your
partner.
Again, love and affection should be assumed. Not stated.
I disagree...it's important to be playfull, loving, teasing and complimentary....it makes for a more loving marriage and means that you are not only lovey dovey when you are making love but you are making alot of love all day long....
17) Thank your partner for their gift, or effort on your behalf.
Agreed.
18) Last one up, make the bed.
Agreed.
It took me 3 months but agreed
19) Notice when your spouse looks tired, and do something about it.
If she is tired, she should go to bed. Why the hell do I have to take care of her.
20) Never run your partner down, or criticise them in public.
If she does something bad. I should be able to criticise her. Even if in public.
Disagree with you....public criticism is very harsh and should be done lightly....gently..you'll get a better response if you do it in private. thought my husband has no problem fighting in front of stragners.
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