The best couple is my parents… SO HOT!!! 
wats the garuntee ppl that have a arranged marriage will have the same habits
If you guys all think you are spik and span within 15 mins of washing, you are wrong. You still smell.
They had love marriage and they didn't know about each others eating, sleeping habits etc? Wow. I'm glad I'll know a lot before getting married and will not have any certain problem with him being a bit different in some matters. I know these cchoti cchoti habits do make a big difference sometimes specially when both of em are impatient, low tempered, and stubborn. When you're about to get married, you're suppose to keep such things in your mind that you'll have to face a few different habits of your partner and will have to bear with him/her. You can't always have a bed of roses to sleep on you know.
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*Originally posted by Fraudz: *
did u try a love marriage and an arranged marriage yourself before coming up with this universal truth?
I can argue the opposite that if u chose someone, then u will have more vested and would try harder to work through differences, if it is someone your maan baap tied you to, you would just resent the arrangers as well as the spouse for being a mismatch :)
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hahaha no i didnt but i've seen both sides of the spectrum thru friends and family who had love/arranged marriages and thats what i saw... yeah i guess ur argument could hold up as well but from my experiences i've come to this conclusion
Well before I got married, I was kinda aware of those small things because I met my wife in B-school. There are other things like eating in bed, making strong tea and dressing our son too girly were some thing that I didn't know about, but it wasn't a huge deal for me to get used to.
I think it has to depend on both sides to resolve the issue. My wife and I a pretty laid back people, so it isn't as difficult. I mean there are some issues that I feel strongly about and she is the same about other issues...that is where compromise is crucial.
well these lil things can be really annoyin...so its better if u know ahead of time.....kay woh kaysa haii....pasand na pasand....wat bothers him..blah blah
well we have been togather for3 yrs now and pretty much know a lot about each other but there are still somethings left for later ;) but as far as eating habits and sleepin goes we talk bout it and know who likes wat as u r allowed to talk this much .
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Not necessarily, though depends on which particular things/habits you are talking about. Food favorites are usually different. TV is a general issue, where men and women normally have very different tastes... while men want news and sports, women generally get bored with these. Solution: 2 TV's. Most differences can be easily solved... however, if husband and wife have trouble sharing the same bed, then definitely a big problem.
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there could be another issue too..husband is involved with gupshup to an extent that wife starts thinking of gupshup her SOKAN.......
^ Isnt that Azkar’s story?
If you love your partner, then you get used to their habbits and sometimes make compromises. He likes spicy food, where as I like medium, now I eat a bit more spices and he eats medium spiced food also. He doesnt like chai and I havent been able to change that one. I love a cup of chai during late afternoon.
No matter how well you think you know the person before you get married, you will spend your whole life learning about each other and that's what makes life interesting.
This is from a book and I thought I would share it with all of you because it applies to any couple, regardless of whether they went through a love marriage or an arranged one.
A Few Rules for A Happy Marriage
1) Tell each other you love each other.
2) Never both be angry at the same time.
3) If you have to criticise, do it lovingly.
4) Never bring up old mistakes.
5) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
6) Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other.
7) Pray together at least once a day.
8) Remember that behind every successful spouse is an exhausted partner.
9) Remember it takes two to quarrel.
10) When you have done something wrong, admit it.
11) At least once a day, say something kind or complimentary to your
partner.
12) Do not go to bed more than ten minutes after your partner.
13) Listen when your partner is speaking.
14) Remember that your spouse is more important than the television/match/video etc.
15) Notice when your partner is wearing something new, or has a new hairdo.
16) Remember anniversaries.
17) Thank your partner for their gift, or effort on your behalf.
18) Last one up, make the bed.
19) Notice when your spouse looks tired, and do something about it.
20) Never run your partner down, or criticise them in public.
^ cute :)
these 'romantic' lists always come from 19 year old girls who have never even been in a relationship.. let alone marriage..
A Few Rules for A Happy Marriage
1) Tell each other you love each other.
love should be assumed
2) Never both be angry at the same time.
Why not? if she thinks she is right, and I think I am right, why can't we stand by our position
3) If you have to criticise, do it lovingly.
the purpose of criticizing is to make them see their mistake. Let them know loud and clear what they are doing wrong. No lovey dovey crap
4) Never bring up old mistakes.
Why not. If she is bombarding me with what I did, I should be able to point out similar crap she did before.
5) Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
Again, If I am right, I ain't apologizing.
6) Neglect the whole dunya rather than each other.
We live in this dunya. It will be here long after us. Why ignore something so great.
7) Pray together at least once a day.
I am not very religious.
8) Remember that behind every successful spouse is an exhausted partner.
Not in my case. I am confident that I will be the perfect spouse. She doesn't have to "tame" me.
9) Remember it takes two to quarrel.
90% of the time, girls are to blame.
10) When you have done something wrong, admit it.
Okay, agreed.
11) At least once a day, say something kind or complimentary to your
partner.
Again, love and affection should be assumed. Not stated.
12) Do not go to bed more than ten minutes after your partner.
What if you are busy or simply not sleepy. I go to bed whenever I damn well please.
13) Listen when your partner is speaking.
Yeah right. That's what I wanna do every freaking day of my life. Listen to a girl bitch and moan about her life. No offence, but that seems to be the only topic for girls.
14) Remember that your spouse is more important than the television/match/video etc.
Agreed. However, she should understand that we need entertainment. She isn't my god. I don't have to pay attention to her all the time.
15) Notice when your partner is wearing something new, or has a new hairdo.
Again, what the hell does that have to do with anything. If you wear a new dress and you think you look pretty. Why the hell does it matter if anyone thinks so too or comliments you on it.
16) Remember anniversaries.
Guys are busy. I don't think it is realistic for girls to expect birthdays, anniversaries and what not.
17) Thank your partner for their gift, or effort on your behalf.
Agreed.
18) Last one up, make the bed.
Agreed.
19) Notice when your spouse looks tired, and do something about it.
If she is tired, she should go to bed. Why the hell do I have to take care of her.
20) Never run your partner down, or criticise them in public.
If she does something bad. I should be able to criticise her. Even if in public.
^ thanks for posting answers...btw: what book is that!?
What about after marriage and you have kids? Some people say you live for the kids, more then live for ur partner. Is that true?
It's called "The Muslim Marriage Guide" by Ruqayyah Waris Maqsood.
true
It's all about compromise, patience and tolerance.
If you don't have any or all of the above, then you can turn your relationship into a mess.
Atlanta, I think you should marry Hiccup :k: