asalamualikum Muniya !!
Let me attempt to clarify some of your questions to the best of my ability, though someone else can and probably will do a better job of it.. my answers only reflect my limited knowledge.
lets do it point by point ..
((Then is says women are the property of men yet men and women are equal.. huh??? How can master and property be equal?))
PROPERTY in which sense ?? As in a materialistic property such as my car which I can do whatever I wish with?? I think the correct word is ‘responsibility’.. The guy is ‘responsible’ for his family, wife, kids etc, and lets just keep in mind that there CAN ONLY BE ONE leader of the household, it can never be a 50/50 partnership..OFCOURSE if he has any sense in his head,he’ll make sure he consults and listens to and does things with mutual agreement, but the final decisions rests with the husband as long as what he is doing is not against islam wallahualim:)
and ALLAH says in the QURAN in Surah an-Nisa: “Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means”
PLEASE try to understand that a LOT OF US have been brought up with pre-concieved notions of ‘equality’, we will have to put those aside and look at how islam deals justly with both men and women.
((What about working women? ))
Lets have it clear that the fitrah of a woman is in her house, and her husband should try to NEVER put her in a position where she is forced to work..men are physically more capable to work outside and this point does NOT EVEN require debate!!
PLEASE try to understand that if both the husband and wife are working, who in the world is going to be responsible for the kids??? THE same kids who’ll be their future??? this is where the wife is much better- at raising the kids!! she should try and concentrate her abilities there
HOWEVER, if the women is forced to work because of necessity..thats a different scenario altogether…she could try and find a job where she can work in a way which doesn’t force her to do things which’re against islam etc, but this matter requires discussion with someone of greater knowledge, maybe you could try speaking to some sisters in your area:)
((finally, men that treat women badly are ‘unfortunate’ and all but how are women to react to abusive men? divorce is frowned upon.. so what options do women have? ))
AGAIN, this is dealt with in the QURAN ..first off the woman should try and find a spouse who will not be abuse however if the couple are going through a ‘lean’ period or anythign.
an-Nisa:35 - If ye fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from his family, and the other from hers; if they wish for peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation: For Allah hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things.
so basically the families should get together and try and resolve the issue as best as they can..also, if the women fears cruelty on part of her husband, there is no harm if they decide to part since they can not stay together in peace. other than divorce I’m not sure so someone else might be able to help you out there,
ps))) all those who claim that women are somehow inferior need to get a reality check done !! Us guys are supposed to work, study & provide for our families and be gentle in our interactions with them, NOT easy i tell ya!! :bummer: The PROPHET sallalhu ale`he wasallam said, and the best among you are those who’re best to your families, so abusive husbands are definitely OUT !!
i’m linking some pages to you which you might want to read if you get the time:)
LINKS<<1,2,3,4
hope that helps,I’m hoping someone else would respond too as I feel my answers haven’t really answered your questions
Let me attempt to clarify some of your questions to the best of my ability, though someone else can and probably will do a better job of it.. my answers only reflect my limited knowledge.
