Questions about having FOUR wives...

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I’m just curious and I"m positive one of you well educated, religious adults can help me out.

I know it’s sunnah to marry four ladies but how does this process take place?

Questions:

1 - Do we ask the first wife to have a second wife and so forth?

2 - Do we all share the same bedroom or does it have to be seperated in some sort of way?

3 - Who gets what percentage of your properties and $ after death? Is it divided out equally or by who married first?

4 - Finally, who sang the song that goes like this, “Heyy yaa, Hey yaa.” (jk) Please answer my first 3 questions :slight_smile:

THANKS IN ADVANCE!

I need to know cause many people question me about why Islam allows four wives. etc… Please reply…

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Re: Questions about having FOUR wives...

1 - Do we ask the first wife to have a second wife and so forth?
no permissions needed from wives....

2 - Do we all share the same bedroom or does it have to be seperated in some sort of way?
no u dont share the same room....
better to have separate houses....
if u cant afford, polygamy aint for u....

3 - Who gets what percentage of your properties and $ after death? Is it divided out equally or by who married first?
they all get equal...

4 - Finally, who sang the song that goes like this, "Heyy yaa, Hey yaa." (jk) Please answer my first 3 questions :)
no idea about this one....

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Purely for information, Islam is the only religion that actually says marry ONE but permits a maximum of FOUR under very strict conditions, the main one being EQUALITY AND JUSTICE between all wives. If you can't fulfil these things, you have sinned.

Most other religions (in their pure, unadultered forms) say marry more than one (Christianity and Hinduism and Judaism) with no upper limit in most cases. Very few people do but its usually the Christians who say: Why can you marry 4 wives etc?...

In none of the religious scriptures like the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta or the Bible do you find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures you can marry as many as you want. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one

King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives. In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a couple of centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.

Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, when an Act of the chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife

*Qur'an: 'Marry woman of your choice in twos' threes' or fours' but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, (with them), then only one' [Al-Qur'an 4:3] *

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Neely payee jaan.. if u have to rely on the Qur’an to justify something .. at least quote the full verse so people know how Mullahs abuse the divine commands..

[4:3] And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.

PakistaniAbroad: .. everyone just conveniently ignores the operative condition in bold to the marrying part of the verse..

Just ask the Mullahs to explain to us how marrying more than one woman helps us act equitably towards orphans.. :halo:

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*Originally posted by Neely: *
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Purely for information, Islam is the only religion that actually says marry ONE but permits a maximum of FOUR under very strict conditions, the main one being EQUALITY AND JUSTICE between all wives. If you can't fulfil these things, you have sinned.
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*Qur'an: 'Marry woman of your choice in twos' threes' or fours' but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, (with them), then only one' [Al-Qur'an 4:3] *
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Allah says in the very next surah....

Quran 4:129
*Ye will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however much ye wish (to do so). But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her as in suspense. If ye do good and keep from evil, lo! Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful. *

here shows a much better meaning of dealing justly....
the thing is to 'try ur best to deal justly'....

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Four wives concept in Quran is a correct proof that Quran in fact was a law book for haram addicted arabs.
I do not think that actually God might take any interest in guiding man how many wives he could bear. And if so God could give equal opportunity to both, if man goes hunting for four, the woman could follow the same, I mean four men with all respect.

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Re: Re: Questions about having FOUR wives...

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Originally posted by armughal: *
1 - Do we ask the first wife to have a second wife and so forth?
**no permissions needed from wives*....
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Im sure permission is needed from previous wife...otherwise how would one justify another wife?

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[QUOTE]
*Originally posted by Neely: *
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Purely for information, Islam is the only religion that actually says marry ONE but permits a maximum of FOUR under very strict conditions, the main one being EQUALITY AND JUSTICE between all wives. If you can't fulfil these things, you have sinned.

Most other religions (in their pure, unadultered forms) say marry more than one (Christianity and Hinduism and Judaism) with no upper limit in most cases. Very few people do but its usually the Christians who say: Why can you marry 4 wives etc?...

In none of the religious scriptures like the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta or the Bible do you find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures you can marry as many as you want. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one

King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives. In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a couple of centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.

Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, when an Act of the chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife

*Qur'an: 'Marry woman of your choice in twos' threes' or fours' but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, (with them), then only one' [Al-Qur'an 4:3] *
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I think you are confused with scriptures mythology , epics and time frame.
Just don’t cut and paste stuff without basis. There is nothing like marry many in Vedas.
You are using to copout for today’s situation and law. Tell me how many people use Vedas? Or King Dashrat as example to marry in this century.
Good luck with your seventh century mind set.

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*Originally posted by Miss_Mohabbat: *

Im sure permission is needed from previous wife...otherwise how would one justify another wife?
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according to Islamic Shariah it is not needed....

but going by Pakistan family law u need permission from ur previous wife....

lets make it clear again, according to the Shariah no permission is needed....

and u dont need a reason to marry another woman, no justification....

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*Originally posted by anjjan: *
I do not think that actually God might take any interest in guiding man how many wives he could bear.

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Here is the catch, my God takes interst in me, and he guides me on each and every step. He wants me to eat some things and avoid some, dress in a way and behave in a perticular way...so once I do what he syas I will be in Submission to him, and this is what Islam (submission) is all about.

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I'm pretty sure you have to ask permision from your first wife to get married again or at least ask her if she will stay with you if you do.

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*Originally posted by Fita: *
at least ask her if she will stay with you if you do.
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Good point.

Also, armughal bhai, Islam puts strong emphasis on Huqooq-ul-ibaad and it is the wive's right to be informed of her husband's intentions of marrying second wife.

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*Originally posted by funguy: *
Also, armughal bhai, Islam puts strong emphasis on Huqooq-ul-ibaad and it is the wive's right to be informed of her husband's intentions of marrying second wife.
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Islam puts a strong emphasis on Haquoq Al Abad, but no where close to Haqooq Allah. So the way to Haqouq al abad is through haqouq allah.

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and marrying more than once is such a huge “haqooq-Allah” ..

btw no Mullah has yet dared touch the condition that precedes the verse talking about marriage and more than one woman.. :halo:

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*Originally posted by gpsy: *

I think you are confused with scriptures mythology , epics and time frame.
Just don’t cut and paste stuff without basis. There is nothing like marry many in Vedas.
You are using to copout for today’s situation and law. Tell me how many people use Vedas? Or King Dashrat as example to marry in this century.
Good luck with your seventh century mind set.
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Why cant some people on GS read properly before making comments?

QUOTE from my original post: Most other religions in their pure, unadultered forms say .....
Are they no longer valid because they were "revealed" so long ago?

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dude but we also take hadiths as source for our guidance, if u reject hadiths then for u orphans are the main reason for polygamy, but for us hadiths have explained this issue in more detail.
thats that simple. i would rather take the interpretation of umar :razi: ali :razi: and abu bakar :razi: of what rasul :saw: taught them rather than yours.

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What condition is that?

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*Originally posted by armughal: *

according to Islamic Shariah it is not needed....

but going by Pakistan family law u need permission from ur previous wife....

lets make it clear again, according to the Shariah no permission is needed....

and u dont need a reason to marry another woman, no justification....
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ok i get the shariah thing

but i definatly know u need justification

being greedy has its limit u know

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Theres a differnece between informing her and asking for her permission.

And the wife can ask for divorce regardless, whether hes remarried or not.

PS. 4 mother in laws :eek: :crying: :mudhosh: :bummer:

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*Originally posted by gupguppy: *
What condition is that?
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"And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans....