why has getting married become such a hard task?
Because people think differently about it?
Having a tough time finding Mr/Mrs Right?
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why has getting married become such a hard task?
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There is just too much to prepare, too much financial responsibilities, stability, matching up to standards/status.
Its easy to get married, just hard to keep it these days.
Why do you find it hard?
Do you mean performing the ceremonies or meeting "the one"?
i think the hardest bit would be after the ceremony
getting to know the person
and realizing theres no turning back
No, I'm not talking about myself...I have a few friends who are getting hassled by their parents because they want to marry someone that they like. And it's not like they've jumped into this whole issue with only emotions...they have taken a LOT and I mean A LOT of time discussing issues with the prospectives, of course in an ISLAMIC SETTING . THey've discussed everything under the sun...marriage life- the roles of both spouses, careers, learning about each others families and their own personalities...by discussing both the good and the bad, discussing relationships with in-laws/ the new sets of parents, bros, sisters each will receive, deen, iman, respecting family members, dealing with problems, anger management etc etc etc etc etc and YET...there are hassles...excuses...complaints?! I hate seeing my friends in so much distress... :(
it’s because of the silly eastern aversion to remarrying.
just do it.. there’s always divorce 
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Excuse me Hina but that USED to be MY quote on Muad :)
really? I picked it up elsewhere...
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why has getting married become such a hard task?
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When was it easy amongst desis?
seriously....why do desis make it seem so hard?
I'll agree with CocoNut here. Keeping the marriage intact or rather interacting with your partner to ensure it continues in a state of 'blossom' is probably what's getting harder than the aspect of getting hitched. Just getting married is getting harder, just not as much as keeping the engine oiled.
As with everything else in life, we are always raising the bar and setting newer, higher levels of standards to be kept upto. This is only part of the goo we are forced to negotiate. Other than that, it's just the regular issues of compatibility, what-if's and 'precautionary measures' which are seeing a change in the way they are tackled; what with the world becoming a bigger, meaner place and all.
Everything's become all about contemplating, spacing, and educated moves. Which is probably not a bad thing, coz that's the way the environment's continuously cutting its corners, edges and bulges to become. Fortunately, or unfortunately, things like marriage and the like are not as simplistic is they are wished to be.
Nothing is easy or hard by itself, it's how it's tackled that makes it appear one way.
I just believe people make it more difficult than necessary. If there is a mutual understanding between the individuals, and their personalities and character are not questionable and if they are sound in their faith..then why the deal...isn't that what every parent wants for their children...
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... isn't that what every parent wants for their children...
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My own opinion is that amongst desis, what about 75% of parents want is for their children to marry someone of the parent's choice rather than of the children's, regard of whether or not their children decided on a match through Islamic means or not. The principle remains that parents must have full control.
so would they rather have their child marry someone who they want..and then risk problems in the future? or would they want to marry their child to someone who the child knows and has discussed everything that needs to be discussed prior to marriage...
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so would they rather have their child marry someone who they want..and then risk problems in the future? or would they want to marry their child to someone who the child knows and has discussed everything that needs to be discussed prior to marriage...
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That's the thing.... I believe that they feel their children are too naive to be able to make the right decision.
was it ever that easy Hinna?
i feel sorry for ur friedns :(
Getting married is not a difficult task.... getting a right person is a difficult task
..but shouldn't parents give their kids a chance?