Question to Rishta Work In Process - Girls

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Re: Question to Rishta Work In Process - Girls

@Pisiform

Some sort of attraction is important at least, here in the west. Here, the guy as well as the girl have pretty much final say in the decision. If she didn’t have any sort of attraction, I don’t believe she would say yes.

i know in pind, there maybe marriages among cousin due to financial reason, or whatever but I am not talking about those. Even child marriages happen in some part of pakistan but no one is talking about that.

And no one is saying go ONLY for attraction. But you are making marriage seem like a deal without any substance which would make it happy/worthwhile

I’m not advocating way of having a successful marriage. Those are some things that happen.

And it’s funny how quickly you separated west and called Pakistan a place where stupid things happen.

Let me show you some real facts.

I have seen a lot of weddings in my life where the family was from the west and they chose a guy/girl from Pakistan. You wanna know why?

There were many reasons in all of the cases but more prominent ones are;

1- The girl/guy was super ugly and the guy/girl was seeking a visa.
2- The girl slept with someone got pregnant had abortion and parents now decided to marry her with a Pakistani guy.
3- Guy was on drugs and parents decided to find a Pakistani wife.
4- Family couldn’t find a reasonable guy from the west who wouldn’t divorce her in a year or two.
5- The girl got married to a guy from the west and got divorced in just first 1-2 years and then the family decided to look for a groom in Pakistan.
6- Guy married a gori had kids and the white girl divorced him and now he’s looking for a wife from Pakistan.
7- Family preferred Pakistani bride/groom so they could control stuff.
8- Girl got married had kids got divorced and family now accepting proposals from Pakistan.
9- Guy been in west from forever and had been playing with women there now realizes they not worth it and decides to seek proposals from Pakistan.
10- Family seeks a Pakistani proposal because they want the children to be more humanly civilized and obey their parents later on.

I can go on really.

So please don’t tell me what’s going on in the west. You’re only talking about phase 1 and I’m talking about phase 2 and phase 3 as well.

And I’ve seen many cases where a desi western woman married a guy just for his wealth.

And I’ve seen many cases where a desi western guy married a girl just because her father was a big businessman.

And I’ve seen many cases in the west where cousins got married exactly like how happens in pind of Pakistan.

So what you talking about here really?

To answer your question more accurately not every western guy or girl prefers the looks or have control on their wedding decision you need to travel more.

Marriage is a social contract/deal when it comes to definition. And the 10 examples I gave you are enough substance I believe.

So in conclusion, I never meant that people don’t go for attraction, of course they do but that’s not the only deciding factor even though you might find it like that but sometimes people say yes to a proposal because they find many other things interesting to them and they don’t really show that.