Re: Question to Rishta Work In Process - Girls
Marriage in our culture is not merely finding someone you find attractive it’s way more than that.
In desi families people agree on things they don’t totally like just because all the other things that come with it are valuable to them.
I can give you some examples.
1- A situation where the girl is super rich chances are after getting to know each other the guy would say yes even though he doesn’t like the girl very much and vice versa.
2- A situation where guy is super educated chances are the girl’s family would say yes considering he has a bright future though he belongs to a not that well of family background as compared to the girls and vice versa.
3- A situation where guy would say yes after knowing the fact that the girl is not super cute looking but is a very good Muslim and has done some Islamic studies and knows Islam very well and is a practicing Muslim and vice versa.
There can be 100 other examples like this.
If they won’t talk (both families) and get to know each other and what’s their background the decision that would be made would be totally fictional I would say.
People who go for only attraction most of the time never actually have a good married life. Things like family background, education, religious background and many other things matter as well.
So getting to know each other increases the weight of a proposal I believe in either case.