ok next time it happens like ur hubby wants to go to someone's house while u r coooking suggest u guys hav meal first. if he says wahan ja ker kha lain gay then say ok theek hai lets go. i look fine right? n ofcourse he'll say u look fine. then tell him u need to go washroom n will b back in 1 min. now here's the trick. keep 3-4 suits/ clothes pressed n hanged all time. keep deodrant , mirror , brush n make up in ur purse all time. put clothes on in less than one min. wash ur face. take ur purse, put on ur sandles n out of the house. rest u can do while he drives :)
for special ocassions yes take shower n straight hair a day b4. keep everything ready n set a night b4. as for smell while cooking lit a scented candle n ur body won't catch any smell of masalas. so no need to take shower after meal serving.
PS: y u need to wash hair after cooking? keep it in a scarf n with candle on it won't get smelly.
I am impressed. Allah Sab Ko Aisee Biwiaan Dey. :-)
One more thing I would suggest while you're cooking...keep everything covered and try not to let smells permeate the house or even you...keep all your doors closed, exhaust on and kitchen windows open. Mabrook made a great suggestion...tie your hair in a scarf while you're cooking. Sometimes rubbing some scented lotion in your hands and running them through your hair can help too. Also, after cooking or even towards the end...start boiling some orange peels with cinnamon sticks in water...the entire house and you smell divine.
I have noticed something in Pakistan and with people who come here fresh from Pakistan...there is no concept of calling ahead. People in western countries call ahead and let everyone know they're coming over for dinner at least a week or two in advance but in Pak and people who come here new from Pak...they're not familiar with this. There, people just go to someone'se house at a moment's notice. When my relatives came here, they would just pop by and I was so appalled by it but my mom explained the culture difference and then it made sense. So, I can understand if she has to go somewhere on short notice.
Anyway, I hope you are able to find ways to make life easier for you rockon...I know its hard to be sociable when you just stepped away from a pan full of fried onions. :)
what are these replies. she said she lives in karachi, it's the middle of summer. EVERYONE showers again before going out in the evening, cooking or not. most people wash their hair everyday too.
some of the strategies are helpful but at the end of the day her husband is the one that needs to be more understanding and give her some time, even just 20mins to have a shower (no hair wash) and change would be enough, so at least you are fresh if not made up. and as for weddings and things.. come on, you want to look your better than usual so it does take time.
i think you should ask him to let you know a few hours beforehand when he wants to go out and then if it's okay to give his parents dinner a little earlier so that you have some time to get ready. as for weddings, have the food ready earlier in the day and just heat it up when you need to serve it (if that's acceptable to them on those odd occassions).
PSq, yeh they do but then people also have little concept of turning up at any decent time - going to someone's house at 9pm isn't unusual (after finishing with dinner and getting ready). And many times I have seen that it's completely normal that when guests turn up unanncounced and the lady of the house has been in the kitchen, she goes to shower/change before greeting the guests and it's perfectly acceptable.
^ i really don't know about that...i tried with my husband but it didn't work. and the funny thing is he has never lived in PK!
I don't understand what there is not to work. I'm sure he's capable. If he doesn't want to, then he needs to change his expectations of his wife in terms of the time spent on her responsibilities in the house and getting ready for socializing. Frankly, I don't think the request for more time to freshen up and be more presentable is unreasonable. Sure, she can find ways to be more efficient, but at the end of the day, it is a ridiculous thing to have an argument about. If she needs time, she needs time. And he needs to give it to her.
I was going to suggest the same thing. He will be so engrossed in those games that he will even forget partying.
LOL. Good idea.
Yeah all men in West go to dog obedience schools.
You have no right to call anybody’s husband moron , you have all the rights to call your husband with any names you want.
He is not moron , but impatient and ignorant. If she explains to him all this in the same terms as she did to us in this thread he would surely understand and will not create fuss next time.
ok it may be a very small thing to a lot of u...but its not so for me...and i wud like to hear the points of view of both a married guy and a married girl, so plz specify which one u r ....
how many times does it happen that u r in the kitchen and ur hubby says, lets go out to some body's house - now even if ure not hot n sweaty, u need half an hr to get ready right?!!!!! and my hubby just says, oh u look fine just like that...since i am telling u u look fine, why r u worried abt what others will think?!!!!
and im like, its not like im abt to have a blow dry or soemthing, but i need to change, take a bath?! etc
anyways...the source of innumerable fights....
ditto when we have to go to a wedding and first i have to give his parents dinner and THEN i have to go and get dressed , which includes a shower and then hair beying dryed and straightened, and then the final touches - i need 2 hrs, he cant understand why i cant take 30 minutes like him?!
2 hrs :o ru kidding me.......
i take 1 hr max when we r going to a wedding and max of 45 mins when going to a party and 20 mins when going to meet sum 1 casually... and all of this includes a bath hair straightening n a lil touch up or makeup for weddings...
Believe me my hubby still have prblms with my timings being out and making him late . not to mention i have to make milk bottles for 2 kids and get them ready which is additional of 15 mins ONLY!! neways.... this is a man ego/prblm/nature u cant change it :) . but wht u can do is when u know u have to go sumwhere cook in the morning take a shower in the afternoon n then get ready when its tym to go so u dun have to take 2 hrs in front of him.... he will c u cooking then takn shower then serving the dinner or lunch n then getting rready ur 2 hrs will still be 2 hrs but just mix it up with ur house work :)
why would that statement make him a moron?? i dont get it.
He is her husband. If he reckons she looks great as she is, how would that make him a moron? Id think he was rather sweet...
His demands arent stupid either. Maybe they just need to communicate a little clearly. If he wants to go out on the spare of the moment.. at least give the wifey 15-20 min.
His wife sure doesn't think its sweet hence the thread. The statement is problamatic because it shows he is not only controlling but he does not trust her judgement and opinion about what is right for her to do.
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You have no right to call anybody's husband moron , you have all the rights to call your husband with any names you want.
He is not moron , but impatient and ignorant. If she explains to him all this in the same terms as she did to us in this thread he would surely understand and will not create fuss next time.
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I know my rights THANK YOU! You see him as ignorent while I see this behaviour as intentional hence moronic. They have numerous arguments about this issue and I would guess she had already explianed her side pretty well to him. Instead of giving her the tips how to get an enmergency plan ready for "his higness", I would think its better for them to talk about the underline issue of him being controlling.
Mirchi bhai you are scaring me 