ok it may be a very small thing to a lot of u…but its not so for me…and i wud like to hear the points of view of both a married guy and a married girl, so plz specify which one u r …
how many times does it happen that u r in the kitchen and ur hubby says, lets go out to some body’s house - now even if ure not hot n sweaty, u need half an hr to get ready right!!! and my hubby just says, oh u look fine just like that…since i am telling u u look fine, why r u worried abt what others will think!!!
and im like, its not like im abt to have a blow dry or soemthing, but i need to change, take a bath?! etc
anyways…the source of innumerable fights…
ditto when we have to go to a wedding and first i have to give his parents dinner and THEN i have to go and get dressed , which includes a shower and then hair beying dryed and straightened, and then the final touches - i need 2 hrs, he cant understand why i cant take 30 minutes like him?!
Im a husband, and yes, I have had this 'argument' with begum more times than I can count. I do understand her point of view to a large extent, and ok, its always nicer if you brush yourself up a bit before going out, and wear clean clothes, but when she insists on even ironing my sleeping suit, thats where I draw the line! Well ok, she draws the line, but!
Id say that so long as you are just going to the supermarket, or to a place where you dont have to interact with anyone, then yes, its ok to go in whatever you are wearing. But if you are visiting someone, its better to do a little more.
2 hours is wayy to long lady. I understand a women needs time but maybe you should take a bath early in the morning or something so its not a drag at the last minute. Maybe feed the parents a little earlier. Or try to practise the make up speed lolz . the most it takes me is 40 mins. AND YES GUYS ARE IMPATIENT so its not completely your fault.
ok next time it happens like ur hubby wants to go to someone's house while u r coooking suggest u guys hav meal first. if he says wahan ja ker kha lain gay then say ok theek hai lets go. i look fine right? n ofcourse he'll say u look fine. then tell him u need to go washroom n will b back in 1 min. now here's the trick. keep 3-4 suits/ clothes pressed n hanged all time. keep deodrant , mirror , brush n make up in ur purse all time. put clothes on in less than one min. wash ur face. take ur purse, put on ur sandles n out of the house. rest u can do while he drives :)
for special ocassions yes take shower n straight hair a day b4. keep everything ready n set a night b4. as for smell while cooking lit a scented candle n ur body won't catch any smell of masalas. so no need to take shower after meal serving.
PS: y u need to wash hair after cooking? keep it in a scarf n with candle on it won't get smelly.
I would make sure everything I need is on stand by. My make up from beginning to end should already be in my purse. I should have at least 4 outfits pressed and ready to go in case I need them pronto. You should have one pair of black, silver, gold and tan shoes ready to go also. I carry "emergency jewelry" also in my purse. Its a little cloth pouch that holds small gold earrings, small silver earrings, two chain bracelets (gold and silver), my watch and a ring. That pouch stays in my bag so even if I ran out of the house like a mad woman, I still have some small elegant little touches that can pull my look together...you will always do one or another...gold or silver...so you're safe. I carry travel size perfume and always make sure my nails look presentable and manicured.
I would also look into a different hairdo that doenst require 2 hours to put together...that is a lot of time for your hair to dry and get done. Ive got curly hair so when Im in a rush, I put mousse in it and it goes up in a very messy bun with curls falling out all around...that works well. When I have time and can relax...I straighten my hair and do my entire routine. You can cut it shorter, experiment with different hair styles, buy pretty clips and things for your hair, put some mousse in it and flip it over a diffuser for a wavy look, etc. Basically, find ways to cut your ready-time in half so you're not cranky and upset...I know how you feel. You're not in your element unless you feel 100% put together and fresh. So make sure you do things to help you acheive that feeling quicker.
wow mabrook...thanks!!! it may seem like commonsense but a lot of ur advice, esp abt getting ready in the wash room is an eye opener to me!!
i alwasy have clothes ready to wear, not a problem!! :) i can put on makeup within 5 minutes if in a hurry :) but changing in the wash room idea is brilliant!!! :)
the problem with the kitchen is not just the smells; i perspire like so much u cud make a dam and generate elecro power from it :(:( even if i have to make tea :(:(
hence the need for a bath! and my hair cant stay straight in karachi humid heat for 2 hrs, let alone a whole day, and def not after even ten minutes in the kitchen :(
rockon now that i know u r in pak i can see the need for a bath. one thing i couldn't understand that if u go to a wedding y u hav to serve food to in-laws b4 u go? they don't go with u guys or they don't eat outside?
It is always the same story. I end up locking her in store room and leave without her. I am more careful now, because the last time I forgot to let her out, and she had to stay in there for 2 days. Anyway, life's good, I love her.
mine too. he won't go anywhere without shower n he won't shower untill every one is ready :)
haha, that's what my father does. waits till everyone is almost out the door and then goes to shower. insh'Allah I am planning on following my father's footsteps.
