Re: question for women...
working after marriage is not an issue - the problem arises when people around you are selfish :)
Re: question for women...
well..if my husband, works all day, and is involved in other activities to keep himself busy...AND taking care of the children as well as me..then of course..i will be upset too. Why do you want to put your foot is a million boats...?? Once you are committed to a relationship..whats wrong with fulfilling it wholeheartedly....
wise one? thank u 
what? wheres the time u lose with the hubby whilst he’s at work? we both travel and back and forth together.. i hardly think thats a loss :halo:
ever heard of working together on the weekend? how long does it really take to clean the house? 2 hours at the most? thats good quality time spent together, looking after and caring for ur home…
what movie have u been watching? most married women/mothers should be mature enough to handle worklife and homelife… come on… really now
i dont ive ever left my hubby on an empty stomach…
no comment…
p.s u dont need a wife.. u need a maid or a nanny
Re: question for women...
Sadzzz and Sahar,
You two must be the luckiest girls ever...
work with hubbies, go to work with hubbies, no problem... he helps you clean, cook and other housekeeping, life is just wonderful.
But there are many who are not as fortunate as you, who can't go to work with their hubbies nor can they spend enough time with their families and frankly, I have yet to meet one guy or see him in action who really helps with household chores.
Re: question for women...
^ JL, I really do count myself in the lucky ones :)
I get more help than I need.. I still whinge about it though lol..
I work full-time and look after my child. I stayed home for the first year because I wanted to be there and build a bond with my bubz.. but now she's in the phase of wanting interaction with kids... kids dont get enough stimulation at home.. I see how excited she is to see kids and how proud she is of herself when she achieves something.. and the munchkin aint even 18 months yet!
As i've said many times before, couples are individuals.. they have different ways of working. We as a team think we both need to work.. and dont get me wrong.. we spend lots of quality time with our bubz...
as for those women who say that they will work until they have kids... thats great. But honestly, u will need to reassess ur sitation once you have kids.. So dont be so adamant about or sure about what ur gonna do.. things change.. thats why, in the back of my head.. i always think i may one day stop working full-stop... and how are we as a family gonna cope then... u have to be ready for the worst... and it seems, in most of ur cases... the worst is having to work... so be ready for that :) life is exciting..
Sadzzz and Sahar,
You two must be the luckiest girls ever... work with hubbies, go to work with hubbies, no problem... he helps you clean, cook and other housekeeping, life is just wonderful.
But there are many who are not as fortunate as you, who can't go to work with their hubbies nor can they spend enough time with their families and frankly, I have yet to meet one guy or see him in action who really helps with household chores.
You know what, I KNOW I'm pretty lucky. And I don't take anything I have for granted. But I also work very hard to have the kind of relationship I do with my husband. I speak my mind, I try to always consider his feelings and needs but I also don't hide things from him, I let him know what troubles or concerns me rather than letting things fester, and yes, I picked someone to whom I can talk and with whom I can have a good understanding. I don't see why every relationship doesn't have this kind of potential if each member is a decent human being.
Re: question for women...
^ agree. The longer u keep things inside and let them fester in ur mind, the harder it gets.
Its difficult for me to understand how some couples dont communicate with one another. Im the type to discuss everythign under the sun with my hubby... i tell him about every nitty gritty thing that happens in my day.. it's probably useless information, but i still tell him..
I would work....before the kids come in the picture.....its not just about me...if i am in a mindset...that i am going to do everything i can.....even if the result shows otherwise.....it wouldn t be fair to others...whom I have committed to already........husband..kids..family..friends.....
why wouldnt it be fair? one should always try to do everything they can...no?
oh.. :) and I wasnt talking ABOUT math...I was using the logic to explain my point... :)
lol....neither was i...i was simply using the same LOGIC that you were. :)
soni, I have no trust in sheitaan.
And its not about trust, why should I trust desi WOMEN? As I said, the **potential **for an affair is there now if it happens or does not happen is a different story but the **probability **of it happening increases when you interact with opposite sex.
it's funny you are talking about shaitan in this thread, but in the thread about porn, you think it's perfectly ok. i if you are going to use islamic concepts like shaytaan, at least apply them uniformly. i think it's fine to stay at home, i agree with you there, but i don't agree with the reasoning as it's not consistent.
as with the math, i don't think that equation applies as it suggests that staying at home is like elementary arithmetic and working is calculus. i think they can both be graduate level courses, albeit different ones :)
AE...:) mathematically speaking.... x+y=1 (you) ^doesnt sound too complicated..right?
now imagine this.. x+y-z+ab-xy+1(x+b)=1 (you)
sure...I WANT to do the second one...but realistically...which would you rather pick......
Since you said in Equation-1:
x+y=1
therefore:
x=1-y
Now, lets get to Equation-2:
x+y-z+ab-xy+1(x+b)=1
which is same as:
x+y=z-ab+xy-1(x+b)+1
x+y=z-ab+xy-x-b+1
==> x+y=z-ab+(1-y)y-1+y-b+1 (we plug in 1-y=x)
==> x+y=z-ab+(1-y)y+y-b
==> x+y=z-b(a+1)+y(1-y)+y
Now, unless you define the variable a, b, y as zero, your equation may not be solvable meaning the 2nd type of complicating women you are trying to explain can't exist mathematically.
And if you do define the variable a, b, and y as zero, in that case, we have the following:
In eq. 1:
x + y = 1
==> x + 0 = 1
therefore: x = 1
And, in eq. 2:
x+y-z+ab-xy+1(x+b)=1
==> x+y=z-b(a+1)+y(1-y)+y
==> x + 0 = z-0(0+1)+0(1-0)+0
==> x = z
==> z = x = 1
And what we find is SUPERWOMEN is actually very simple women with extraordinary ablities to manage things in life where she can vanish complex varibles of a day to day life with ease. In other words, any simple women can be SUPERWOMEN.
Re: question for women...
samad! did you see my previous post.....Mathematically speaking...ANYthing is possible!!! of course...i used the equation to make a point.....
in real life, given any variable,x,y,z....must go through a series of issues....family issues,hormones,childbirth,events,studies,housework....whatnot...
thus any variable is a product of unknown..now combine them....
any given equation....can be solved...
I am sure if we all applied mathematics in real life issues....things would be much simpler :)
superwomen are indeed women....but their lives are anything but simple.
abilities....yes....we are all capable of multitasking...how else could we survive double..tripple majors.....masters...phds....??
btw...equation 2..i hope your methods for simplifying step 3 live up to your simplification regarding your wife's work load :)
it's funny you are talking about shaitan in this thread, but in the thread about porn, you think it's perfectly ok. i if you are going to use islamic concepts like shaytaan, at least apply them uniformly. i think it's fine to stay at home, i agree with you there, but i don't agree with the reasoning as it's not consistent.
as with the math, i don't think that equation applies as it suggests that staying at home is like elementary arithmetic and working is calculus. i think they can both be graduate level courses, albeit different ones :)
Excuse me? When did I say that porn was perfectly okay? Link me/show me where I said specifically that porn is "*okay." *In fact, I was merely questioning your reasoning behind accusing all Pakistani guys of searching for porn because of google Trend...so I can see... before I dissect you into few hundred pieces.
If Shaytaan is cause of 'guys' searching for porn, are you saying that sheitaan does not effect behavior of the women? If not then concept of Sheytaan is not so uniform.
JL, seems like you are very insecure.
It is all about trust and understanding.