Re: Question for the ladizz
Its not just his problem. Its mine too.
He shouldn’t marry at all if he needs financial support from parents to maintain his lifestyle. No way.
Its not right for a grown man who is healthy and capable to be taking money from his parents who MAY need that money in their old age. Its actually a HUGE turn off.
He should be trying to do what he can to make THEIR life easier.
As far as this being a problem…supporting parents in their old age and all…if you’re being cruel to your family to be good to your parents…you’re not doing anyone any favors. Meaning, the doors of Jannah don’t open up miraculously if your wife and kids are in need and since you want to be a great son you keep giving your earnings to your parents. It doesn’t work that way. You should maintain a balance, work with your partner to find a situation that is agreeable or at least livable for both parties.
It doesn’t always have to be such a drama or even a choice. Many many many people do both and do them quite well.