Re: Question for the ladizz
you know that becomes a major problem for many too…
Re: Question for the ladizz
so i read here a lot womenz like their husbands to be able to take responsiblity of the wife financially.......and also don't like men who get financial support from their parents....
would u marry man who took money from parents?
what would u do if your husband were to take money from his parents? would you try to stop him/discourage him?
is that something which is a significant turn-off or its like......''his problem...why should i care" sorta thing??/
Its not just his problem. Its mine too.
He shouldn't marry at all if he needs financial support from parents to maintain his lifestyle. No way.
Its not right for a grown man who is healthy and capable to be taking money from his parents who MAY need that money in their old age. Its actually a HUGE turn off.
He should be trying to do what he can to make THEIR life easier.
As far as this being a problem...supporting parents in their old age and all...if you're being cruel to your family to be good to your parents...you're not doing anyone any favors. Meaning, the doors of Jannah don't open up miraculously if your wife and kids are in need and since you want to be a great son you keep giving your earnings to your parents. It doesn't work that way. You should maintain a balance, work with your partner to find a situation that is agreeable or at least livable for both parties.
It doesn't always have to be such a drama or even a choice. Many many many people do both and do them quite well.
Re: Question for the ladizz
I think at all honesty Reha nailed it pretty good. I do not like relying on my parents for anything. I moved out live my own and pay my own bills etc. Even i land in difficulty like any other human being, i work 10 times more hard to make sure i am able to afford the living. I don't know my thinking is little different than guys who grew up in Pakistan. I do know some guys..they live with their parents. Contribute 70% of their income toward household and when he actually needs little bit of money..they ask their dad. Very silly concept yo!.
I am a firm believer of being independent at certain age without having momy and daddy to coach us around every minute.