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^ stay at home mom
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Ah and what is HIBA or whatever some guy or gal used?
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thts a name i guess.
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Right. To answer your question yes and no.
No in the sense she is not a liability to the family or the husband but she is a liability to the economy. Thus also yes. A woman with an education should be working and leading to all the great aspects of economics that usually the naked eye can not see.
But the beauty is that it is up to the individual to chose how they wish to further the human race.
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The challenge as I always saw was that in countries like Pakistan with limited educational opportunities, everytime some lady decides or is asked not to work, you have a decrease in available skilled resource capacity. Many of the universities are state funded so then tax layers (all 11% or so of population as rumours have it) are perpetually investing in resources which will not provide the expected return.
Different take on this topic
i would never ask HIBA to work no matter wht, however if she wants to work its her choice and if she doesnt i will respect that too and not consider her a burden at all infact when i marry her (sign the nikkahnama) i take the responsibility of her well being and financial requirements.
Well said. Exactly my mind set.
The challenge as I always saw was that in countries like Pakistan with limited educational opportunities, everytime some lady decides or is asked not to work, you have a decrease in available skilled resource capacity. Many of the universities are state funded so then tax layers (all 11% or so of population as rumours have it) are perpetually investing in resources which will not provide the expected return.
Different take on this topic
That's a good point...but is it different in the US?
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to some extent, but the ratio of colleges and unis to population is very different, what it does impact is if people who take govt grants like pel grant etc and then decide not to really do much with the degree in the professional world, whether it is industry or academia.
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Call it double standards or hypocrisy but I find it an entirely different situation in Pak. After seeing many of the children there, that SAHM thing isn't exactly workin out
Call it double standards or hypocrisy but I find it an entirely different situation in Pak. After seeing many of the children there, that SAHM thing isn't exactly workin out
true dat
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…then again I can’t blame the mothers for it. Most of the time the mother may have the best intentions but thanks to the in laws/extended family which has a greater presence in Pakistan than it does in Western countries, the grandparents/phuphis/khalas etc end up spoiling the children beyond a doubt…esp if its a boy.
:halo:
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but phupis and khalas are stay at home moms too :)
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yeah but not the mom of the spoield brat
then again their own kid is..
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right so if they cant counter negative influence of family how will the counter the negative influence of the society at large..FAIL
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another F… :hinna:
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i think mothers shouldnt blame other people for their own spoilt children. There are too many mothers who blame grandparents and uncles and aunties for spoiling their children, giving them drinks and lollies and what not... but i say, if ur the mother, you need to take responsiblity and let the people in question know what you want. You're the parent.. not them.
I know sometimes it gets difficult... but a child is a smart being and they will end up taking advantage of the situation. You need to put your foot down and let them know what boundaries you have set.
SAHM? Huh? Someone explain this gibberish to me.
CM sorry for not being clear SAHM is STAY AT HOME MOM and HIBA is my fiance (i used her name cuz quiet a few guppies know her name so i dint have any hesitations or qualms about it)
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my mother does not blame anyone else for her spoilt child i.e. me
she fully blames me saying that last she remembered when i left home I was a shareef seedha sadddha suljha hua ba-adab tameezdaar insaan and that it was my own bad choices that made me a ghunda awara ayyash badmash etc..
I just tell her that its just that I was a better child actor than a grown up actor and with age my acting has gotten worse. 
i have received many chappal awards from her due to my witty remarks, …in another time, another place, i would have been a comedic genius…kahan ophans gaya baychara mein 
russell brand aint got nuffin on me
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^ smart woman :)
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I am going to sue her for child abuse.
you ladies buy chappals and sandals based on looks or fashion or comfort
my mother bought them based on estimated flight patterns and range :(