one or two of each :halo:
seriously speaking, growing up I saw women in my fam ily who styaed home and those who worked and it seemed like it was more of an issue of personalities and how the marriage was. There were stay at home ladies whose homes were always a mess, and there were professionals whose homes were in order. Then there was my mom, a teacher who took time off while we were young and went back to teaching once the youngest was in school and we did not notice any difference in what we ate, cleanliness of the house, etc. we chipped in to help and my dad was very involved in taking care of the house as well.
Due to that I never equated the home life with a working professional really much different than that of a stay at home one. I just felt that someone who had her own life, interest, career etc would have a more fulfilling life overall.
best post u have ever written on GS 
lets start a global desi group to get support for our cause