Would you rather marry a simple ghareloo larkey or a working woman ?
Why ?
I married a simple ghareloo larkey because I wanted to feel like I am coming back home where some one is waiting for me all fresh and well rested.
The reason for this decision was that ,before I got married,I used to live as a paying guest with a desi pakistani family. The home cooked meals were included in my rent by I would seldom get to eat home cooked meals because lady of the house used to work and would be too tired to cook anything. Many a time I heard the wife telling husband fridge main khana rakha hay garam kar kay kha lain.
They both were very loving and caring but I knew she got tired working on full time basis. I get tired too by the time I come home from work so how could I expect my wife not to be tired if she worked on a full time basis. In Pakistan you can afford to have lots of domestic help if you both are working . Still Your wife will not be fresh and well rested and ready to welcome you with a broad smile.
Am I wrong ?
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When it comes to marrying a girl... men are often very picky as to what kind of girl they should be getting married to.... well, i guess it depends on what kind of job she has.. if she is in some sort of profession and think she can handle both work and home.. then i guess i have no reason to stop her to not work.. but if i start to see her tired all the time.. then i guess ill ask her to do the job maybe once or twice a week if she so wills.. personally, i dont really care if she works or not.. as long as i get what i want from her... (cooks, take care of my family and myself, gives time to me etc)..
desi guyz from abroad r no morebetter in this sense..that htey want the wife to work but htey also want her to cook and do the housework..its funny..at lteast the guyz back home dont expect her to do double duties..
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i believe that a guy should marry a girl keeping in mind how he wanted his married life to be ( so mirch what u did was right )........................if only he wanted his wife to work than should he marry a professional degree holder / highly qualified girl , marrying someone who's a professional/career oriented and than asking her to give it up for family is very unfair .
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If you are able to live nicely on one income then theres nothing at all wrong with wanting a wife who is a homemaker. Your sentence about wanting to come home to a wife who is all rested and fresh was really cute lol! That may happen - but will last just till you have kiddies!
Anyway, it is very very hard in this age to raise a family on one income. I have been so lucky so far to be able to stay home. But its not going to last. Life is way too expensive so back to work I will go as soon as my littlest enters kindergarten.
Its lovely to have ideals. But you have to also be realistic and open to making adjustments.
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Our stardard of living should match our income. Sometimes two incomes cannot support the lifestyle we choose.
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My wife is well educated and used to car, but we decided that she will be homemaker, coz i am tto lazy and she wants to give full attaention to kids.
Our stardard of living should match our income. Sometimes two incomes cannot support the lifestyle we choose.
..........i used to think the same way, laikin iss barrhtee hui mehangai kaa kiaa kiya jaye .
Anyway, it is very very hard in this age to raise a family on one income.But you have to also be realistic and open to making adjustments.
.........u know sometimes it's better that both partners earn esp if they've to support/feed not just their own kids but their parents too , than these expenses r way too much to be managed with just one salary.
…from what i read, i think you made this decision for her. 
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^No she was very much a part of the decison.
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I am a guy, and I want to be a homemaker...seriously.
I am tired of working. I want to be "all fresh and well rested" when my wife comes home from work.
By the way, why does Mirchi have so many questions.
I am a guy, and I want to be a homemaker...seriously. I am tired of working. I want to be "all fresh and well rested" when my wife comes home from work..
phirr tou aap ko biwi kee naheen , balkey husband ki zaroorat hai :biggthumb
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^I see so many gora husbands who stay at home while the wife goes to work, why can't I be like them.
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No-one is saying you can't, its just not the norm.
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^Norm-worm ko goli maaro...I am willing to sit at home umemployed and let my wife assume the "breadwinner" role.
I just don't understand why it hurts the ego of an average Desi Husband if his wife earns more money than him.
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Well Some1..you will lose the position as the king...and all the luxuries that come with it... :)
^^ actually..its not really..the latest batch of corrupt desi husbands have no ego problem doing nothing and sitting on the women's money like a total beghairith..but they do have ego problems in other areas..such as her social netwrok of freinds and her being independant and him not knowing where she is and where she went and whom she spoke to full detailed report of that every day..
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hahaha :)
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my guy said he wants me to work after marriage and he will get annoyed if i'm a housewife because it's a total waste :) i was kind of surprised because his mom is a housewife so i thought he would prefer that. i'm glad he doesn't mind either way :)))
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My wife used to work before we got married but she quit after she moved after we got married. She doesn't really have to work because I make enough to support both of us. As for "she can work to stay active", she can but she's taking a break because she worked very hard for 3-4 years to run her house before we got married. After we have kids, I would prefer that she stays home and raise our children because being a mother is MORE THAN a full time job, in fact, it's a 24/7 job and it's not fair to ask her to work while she's raising the kids and keeping the house running. The good thing is that she has the work experience and a degree in case she ever has to step in the working world.